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Marriage: The “Control” Question
When discussing marriage, any mention of control is likely to push a few buttons! That’s evident by how some folks talk about their spouses: “I sure can’t control him!” “She’s completely out of control!” or this entertaining comment:
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Tagged blame, criticism, internal & external control
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More on Marriage
“Are you here because you want help for the marriage?” This first question in the structured reality therapy approach to marriage counseling
Five Big Marriage Questions
Marriage: It can bring out the best behaviours or the worst behaviours in a pair of people. Couples in trouble
Perception and Reality: What’s What?
You know what’s real, right? Your senses connect you to the world; we see sunsets, hear music, and pet the cat. So how can different people look at the same object, person, or event, and
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Tagged improving relationships, perception
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Beating that No-Choice Feeling
Do you ever feel forced into doing meaningless tasks? That you’ve been trapped into doing things that aren’t appreciated? It’s easy to feel dissatisfied when
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Tagged freedom, internal & external control, making choices
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When Nobody Seems to Care
The world can be a cold and lonely place if you feel that nobody cares about you. The need for love and belonging is one of five basic needs identified by Dr. Wm. Glasser, the originator of Reality Therapy. It’s … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, making choices, need satisfaction, perception
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It works at work
We spend a lot of time at work. For some, that’s a place of camaraderie, good will, and cooperation, where co-workers, supervisors, and customers feel like family. Everybody pitches in; it’s relaxed and fun while the work gets done. Less … Continue reading
Fixing Problems or Fixing Blame?
Do you have problems? Disappointments? Unhappiness? You’re a rare person indeed if you can answer, “Never, or hardly ever.” Some people deal with their problems and setbacks more effectively than others do. What’s the difference?
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Tagged blame, internal & external control, perception, unhappiness
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Choosing to satisfy your needs
We make choices all the time. Some decisions are important, with long-term consequences, such as, “Shall I tell my supervisor what I really think of her?” Others aren’t as critical, such as
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Tagged making choices, need satisfaction
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If you can’t always get what you want…
If you can’t always get what you want, can you at least get what you need? Does that question ever cross your mind? If you feel that you are not even getting what you need in your life, then the … Continue reading
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