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Reality Check: The Five Second Rule

Do you know the five second rule? Maybe it’s the ten second rule. Either way, it’s the rule/myth that when a piece of food hits the floor, it’s still edible if it’s picked up right away. You know, of course, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Speak or to Avoid?

Illnesses, losses and tragedies happen. When you know someone who is experiencing a significant difficulty, it can be hard to know what to say. How do you react when you see that person coming down the sidewalk? Do you think, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Ratios and Relationships

I’ll bet you were hoping for a math lesson today, so here you go: A ratio is essentially a pair of numbers that defines a relationship. And we all know that the value and quality of our relationships plays a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Essential Connections

When things are going well, some of us don’t feel a great need to seek out connections with others. We’re content to forge along and make our progress without a great deal of interaction. When things are going badly however, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Compassion of Listening

If you have an active imagination, you may have a conversation going on in your head right now while you’re reading this. Perhaps you are arguing with yourself over whether you should have said that thing you said to your … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Reassessing Wants

Dr. Robert Wubbolding suggests a deceptively simple four-part structure derived from the practice of Reality Therapy. He calls it WDEP: Want, Do, (self)Evaluate, and Plan. The practice starts with, “What do you want?” Wants can be surprisingly confusing and the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What we say; What they hear

Have you ever walked away from a conversation shaking your head and wondering, “What was that all about?” Do you ever perceive that people you talk to are overly sensitive, resentful, or easily offended? Having a conversation that’s a true … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Urge to Justify

Most of us have been on the receiving end of criticism at some point. If that’s you, then you may also be familiar with the urge to respond by justifying your actions. Criticism sometimes comes from the people closest to … Continue reading

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Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?

Choice theory emphasizes self-evaluation. As the word implies, to self-evaluate is to evaluate, for yourself, how well something is working. To self-evaluate, you consider what you want, compare it to the reality, and then determine how well they match. It’s … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World

Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading

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