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Reality Check: Choosing Direction
Both good events and bad events are happening all the time. Babies are born, but loved ones pass away. Financial situations rise or fall. Living arrangements change for the better or for the worse. Friends and family may draw closer … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances
The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: What I Didn’t Know Then
Choice Theory is focused on the present day. Why? “All you have any control over is what you do right now” is how Dr. Glasser puts it in “Choice Theory.” We can’t change the past, but many of us with … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, encouragement, improving relationships, responsibility
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Reality Check: Other People’s Futures
We know that we can only take action in the present. Even so, do you find that the future is very much in your thoughts? Why? If you want to consider a Choice Theory explanation, we could look at what … Continue reading
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Tagged improving relationships, offering information, perception
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Reality Check: The Whys and Hows of Relationships
Relationships are a big deal in Choice Theory, where much of Dr. Glasser’s writings address how to improve relationships. Yet if we look at current culture, we could get the impression that it’s the disputes that are applauded, not efforts … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: One Good Thing
“Structured reality therapy” is an approach that Dr. Wm. Glasser developed and used for marriage counselling. Like some other aspects of Choice Theory, the process sounds almost simplistic; essentially it begins by having both people answer five straightforward questions. Simplicity, … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing influences, choosing thoughts, conflict, discouragement, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Five Questions Meet a Conflict
Some people take a spontaneous seat-of-the-pants approach to life, while others find structure more satisfying. Personally, I find structure helpful: shopping lists, appointment calendars, journal reminders. Tools of this sort may not work perfectly, but they can help us develop … Continue reading
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Reality Check: Can We Resolve This Dispute?
Some of us like to solve problems. In fact, we might even identify ourselves as problem-solvers, based on successful problem solving incidents in our past! It’s satisfying to be able to assess a situation, interact with the involved parties, and … Continue reading
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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring
Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading
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