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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances

The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What I Didn’t Know Then

Choice Theory is focused on the present day. Why? “All you have any control over is what you do right now” is how Dr. Glasser puts it in “Choice Theory.” We can’t change the past, but many of us with … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Other People’s Futures

We know that we can only take action in the present. Even so, do you find that the future is very much in your thoughts? Why? If you want to consider a Choice Theory explanation, we could look at what … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Whys and Hows of Relationships

Relationships are a big deal in Choice Theory, where much of Dr. Glasser’s writings address how to improve relationships. Yet if we look at current culture, we could get the impression that it’s the disputes that are applauded, not efforts … Continue reading

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Reality Check: One Good Thing

“Structured reality therapy” is an approach that Dr. Wm. Glasser developed and used for marriage counselling. Like some other aspects of Choice Theory, the process sounds almost simplistic; essentially it begins by having both people answer five straightforward questions. Simplicity, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Five Questions Meet a Conflict

Some people take a spontaneous seat-of-the-pants approach to life, while others find structure more satisfying. Personally, I find structure helpful: shopping lists, appointment calendars, journal reminders. Tools of this sort may not work perfectly, but they can help us develop … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can We Resolve This Dispute?

Some of us like to solve problems. In fact, we might even identify ourselves as problem-solvers, based on successful problem solving incidents in our past! It’s satisfying to be able to assess a situation, interact with the involved parties, and … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring

Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Curious Quest

Everyone has an opinion about something. And some people seem to have opinions about everything! While this can make for lively conversation, differences in opinion can also result in hard feelings. Our lives go a little more smoothly when we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When Our Choices Are Questioned

We make decisions each day; some big, many small. Many of us like to believe that we make those decisions based on logic and facts. We weigh pros and cons and we make the best possible choice based on the … Continue reading

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