Category Archives: Choosing Perspective

Reality Check: The Stories We Tell

When you roll out of bed in the morning, do you tell yourself, “Today is going to be an amazing day!”? Or is your first thought closer to, “Ugghh. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this day.” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Why Not Ask?

“I’m not going to bother asking because I know what I’ll hear.” Have you ever held back from making a request using that reasoning? For example, “I won’t bother to ask for a refund because I know it will be … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Another Positive to Negative Ratio

Last time, I had suggested an experiment for you to try if you have a relationship that you’d like to improve. Essentially, the experiment starts by keeping track (in your mind) of how often you offer a “compliment” (encouragement, appreciation, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Essential Connections

When things are going well, some of us don’t feel a great need to seek out connections with others. We’re content to forge along and make our progress without a great deal of interaction. When things are going badly however, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Resources and Resourcefulness

Picture yourself stranded on a desert island (or an island off Nova Scotia.) As you are “stranded,” it’s implied that you didn’t intend to be in this situation and it’s definitely not what you want. Now what do you do? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Off the Rails?

The opportunity to spend time with our thoughts can be marvellous. It’s a chance to examine our lives and our relationships. We can think about what we want and where we want to go. We could look at the choices … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Commencement

It’s graduation season! Congratulations to all of the graduates who are about to embark on a new phase in your lives. Perhaps this isn’t graduation time for you. Maybe it’s been a long time since you’ve felt like you’ve had … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Doing the Hard Thing

“I don’t even know why I am doing this.” My friend, who we’ll call Julie for this little story, had hit a rough spot on her way toward a goal that’s important to her. Because I’m a loyal friend with … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Goals and the Posts That Define Them

The Reality Therapy approach, as structured by Dr. Robert Wubbolding, starts with a fundamental question: “What do you want?” For many, those wants include benefits for others. For example, I want career success for people I’ve worked with. There’s a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Adaptability and Optimism

A commentator on morning radio recently said, “The world needs a dose of optimism now.” Maybe that’s true. Optimism can help us turn around, look up, and find hope again. Are you a natural optimist? Some people seem to be. … Continue reading

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