Tag Archives: anxiety

Reality Check: A Stress Test

This is not a test. However, if you want a test, here are a few questions you might ask. On a scale from 1 to 10, how stressed are you? How do you know that you are stressed? Do you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Those Pesky Loose Ends

Do you suffer from loose ends? That is, nagging tasks and unfinished business that you can’t seem to get off your plate? Apparently, there are people who don’t find this bothersome. Their outlook is that whatever needs to be handled … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Words for Difficult Conversations

Last time, I introduced Casey and Cathy’s story. It’s one where Casey has become resentful, perceiving that the more she does for Cathy, the greater are Cathy’s expectations. “Favours” have become demands. Casey has decided that she needs to address … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Response

Let’s go for a drive together. (Unfortunately, this drive will have to be in our imaginations, but we can pretend it’s as much fun as the real thing.) We’ll set out on a leisurely trip. There’s nowhere that we have … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Thing About Control

A long, long time ago, I was on a flight to Cape Breton for a meeting. Everything was going smoothly. I parked at the airport; had my ticket; knew where I was going and who to meet. I was prepared … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When You’re Thrown Off Course

In our lives, we may have blissful times. Those are the days when everything is going smoothly. Relationships with friends and family are warm and satisfying, work or purpose is well in hand and headed in the direction that you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Present Day

We have so many opportunities to find reasons to be upset, anxious, angry, or have other difficult feelings. Your upsets might come from your personal life, from the behaviour of people close to you, such as family, community, or workplace. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Name That Emotion

What emotion are you feeling right now? Take a moment; think about it. Is it curiosity? Joy? Sadness? Enthusiasm? Frustration? Loneliness? Optimism? It’s easy to develop a belief that our emotions control us and that we don’t have much say … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Do We Deserve?

“I don’t deserve this!” I’m sure you’ve heard it said and maybe even said it yourself. A typical context is, “I’m a good person. I don’t deserve this bad thing that’s happening to me.” You could be right. We see … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Satisfaction of Being Useful

Dr. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” is subtitled, “How to get what you need with choice theory psychology.” In it, we are encouraged to make our choices deliberately and to evaluate the results. We have to make choices … Continue reading

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