Category Archives: Making a Change

Reality Check: Choices in Conflict

What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Your Menu Choices

If you want something to grow, it’s generally a good idea to feed it. Don’t want more? Then don’t feed it. That reasoning seems to hold true for the waistline; what if we apply it to emotions? Noreen looks back … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Chosen New Year

You’re only one person, but I know that you play many roles. You may be a mother or a father. You may be a partner in a relationship. Each of us is, or has been, someone’s child. You may identify … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Aesop’s Snake

Do you believe there’s good in everyone? That even the most awful person is good at their core? Values and beliefs form part of what Dr. Wm. Glasser refers to as our “Quality World.” Our beliefs influence our perceptions, decisions … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Change–Like It or Not, Part 2

According to Rick Maurer, resistance to change occurs on several levels. Last column, I indicated that one level is intellectual—“I don’t understand it.” That resistance can be addressed by providing information and engaging in logical discussions. The second level of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Change–Like it or Not? Part 1

If you’re a person or group promoting a change that’s being met with opposition, it can be comforting to blame the opposition on the assertion “people don’t like change.” When you believe that you are facing resistance because other people … Continue reading

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Reality Check: OPAAT

One Person At A Time: OPAAT. Haven’t seen that acronym before? No surprise; I made it up—with a purpose! It reminds me of what I am able to do. News, opinions, and commentaries often point out systemic problems—big wrongs (or … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Model of Motivation

I have some ambivalence about the positive thinking business. It is a business, after all, with books, articles, and motivational speakers. Much of our culture encourages positive thinking, and you’ve even seen suggestions here in this column. Positive thinking complements … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Habit-Forming

It’s commonly said that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. It’s tempting to believe that if you rigidly adhere to a new behaviour for a set number of days, then it magically becomes engrained in you. You … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Gift of the Long View

When her credit card bill arrived last January, Jessica came face-to-face with the reality of the shopping she’d done over the previous months. She had no idea that she had spent so much! Yet when she checked the charges, she … Continue reading

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