Tag Archives: examining wants

Reality Check: The Wisdom of the Second Look

Posted on October 13, 2025 by RealityCheck

When we cross a busy street, we look both ways to make sure the coast is clear. It’s often prudent to take a second look before we set out, as we might overlook a potential threat the first time. If … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Expanding Happiness

Posted on September 13, 2025 by RealityCheck

Picture an image of everything that brings happiness to you. All the people, the places, the things, even the values and ideas; everything that brings you joy. Is your picture huge? Does it contain a wide selection of satisfying things? … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Artificially Intelligent Relationships?

Posted on July 27, 2025 by RealityCheck

What if you could create your perfect wife, husband or friend? A buddy who responds in exactly the right way? You’d never hear a complaint. You’d never feel alone. You’d have a companion to make your life complete. Wouldn’t that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Whys and Hows of Relationships

Posted on May 22, 2025 by RealityCheck

Relationships are a big deal in Choice Theory, where much of Dr. Glasser’s writings address how to improve relationships. Yet if we look at current culture, we could get the impression that it’s the disputes that are applauded, not efforts … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Five Questions Meet a Conflict

Posted on April 30, 2025 by RealityCheck

Some people take a spontaneous seat-of-the-pants approach to life, while others find structure more satisfying. Personally, I find structure helpful: shopping lists, appointment calendars, journal reminders. Tools of this sort may not work perfectly, but they can help us develop … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can We Resolve This Dispute?

Posted on April 25, 2025 by RealityCheck

Some of us like to solve problems. In fact, we might even identify ourselves as problem-solvers, based on successful problem solving incidents in our past! It’s satisfying to be able to assess a situation, interact with the involved parties, and … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Make It Easier

Posted on April 16, 2025 by RealityCheck

When looking for information a while ago, I phoned a local business. I wasn’t quite as prepared as I like to be. Some of us, you know, like to have all our questions lined up beforehand so we are clear … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring

Posted on April 3, 2025 by RealityCheck

Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When Our Choices Are Questioned

Posted on March 9, 2025 by RealityCheck

We make decisions each day; some big, many small. Many of us like to believe that we make those decisions based on logic and facts. We weigh pros and cons and we make the best possible choice based on the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Our Many Types of Relationships

Posted on February 26, 2025 by RealityCheck

Relationships. What do you think of? Perhaps the type of relationship that springs to mind is what we call “romantic” relationships, spouses, partners, girlfriends, boyfriends, and so on. The common phrase “in a relationship” is often taken to mean you … Continue reading →

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