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Reality Check: To Choose a Feeling

The Choice Theory suggestion that we have some choice over our emotions can sound unrealistic. Emotions can pop up so fast; we can be struck by anger, overcome by a wave by grief, or even surprised by joy. It can … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Deliberate and the Impulsive

Impulsive action or deliberate action? If you’re looking for a standard to guide your life, which do you think will lead to more effective results? Impulsive actions can be appealing. The very word “spontaneous” sounds like fun, doesn’t it? Unexpected … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Make a Deliberate Decision

Last time, I referred to “accept your current reality” as the first step offered by Dr. Bob Wubbolding in, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together.” We have to start somewhere, and current reality is the place, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Evaluation Time

Specific words can evoke strong emotions, and for some people, the word “evaluation” is one of them. What comes to your mind when you hear “evaluation”? Does it remind you of school days, of teachers constantly evaluating your work? (perhaps … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Those Pesky Loose Ends

Do you suffer from loose ends? That is, nagging tasks and unfinished business that you can’t seem to get off your plate? Apparently, there are people who don’t find this bothersome. Their outlook is that whatever needs to be handled … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Closing Our Options

Having an abundance of choice can be a luxury in some situations. What food shall I eat? Where shall I go on vacation? Which friend will I spend time with today? Having a myriad of choices in areas such as … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Where Will I Put My Attention Today?

My former colleague Jim had to attend a company meeting in New Brunswick with a few other employees. They drove out in early morning, allowing plenty of time for arrival. About half-way, they switched drivers; Jim took the wheel. Jim … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Response

Let’s go for a drive together. (Unfortunately, this drive will have to be in our imaginations, but we can pretend it’s as much fun as the real thing.) We’ll set out on a leisurely trip. There’s nowhere that we have … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Those Conflicts Within Us

It’s not rare to have a conflict with another person. Some serious conflicts have no apparent solution; others could likely be resolved if we put our minds to it and strive toward cooperation. But what about conflicts that don’t involve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Rock and the Hard Place

There may be times when we find ourselves with a conflict so profound, so unsolvable, that it truly is like being between a rock and a hard place. No matter what you do; what creative solutions you dream up, reality … Continue reading →

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