Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: The Thing About Control

A long, long time ago, I was on a flight to Cape Breton for a meeting. Everything was going smoothly. I parked at the airport; had my ticket; knew where I was going and who to meet. I was prepared … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Simple Thank You

Do you offer compliments? If so, is it rarely, only when someone has done something truly extraordinary? Or does giving compliments come easily to you? Now, how about receiving compliments? Can you accept a compliment without embarrassment, shrugging it off, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances

The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Get Back On Course

When events in our lives go awry, we may develop the perception that life is just one bad thing after another. It’s overwhelming. Some time ago, I asked, “What do you do when events throw you off course?” The suggestions … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When You’re Thrown Off Course

In our lives, we may have blissful times. Those are the days when everything is going smoothly. Relationships with friends and family are warm and satisfying, work or purpose is well in hand and headed in the direction that you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Feelings, Indirectly

How are you feeling? If you’re feeling good, can you hang on to that feeling? If you’re feeling bad, can you change that feeling? Last column, I said that Dr. Glasser offers an approach toward gaining control over our feelings. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Whys and Hows of Relationships

Relationships are a big deal in Choice Theory, where much of Dr. Glasser’s writings address how to improve relationships. Yet if we look at current culture, we could get the impression that it’s the disputes that are applauded, not efforts … Continue reading

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Reality Check: While We’re Waiting…

Are you waiting for something? I’ll bet that you are! Right now, I’m waiting for an appointment date, an order that hasn’t arrived, and a clarification promised by a company. And I’m sure that if I think harder, I can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Does It Matter Who Is Watching?

The choices that we make, both big and small, affect our lives. They contribute to whether we are reasonably satisfied or rather miserable. How do we make our choices? If our behaviour is internally motivated as Dr. Glasser suggests, then … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Why Do We Do the Things We Do?

Why, oh why? Why do we do things that don’t seem to make sense? Even if you always act sensibly yourself, it’s still an interesting question. The answers could help you figure out the rest of us. Here’s one explanation, … Continue reading

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