Tag Archives: perception

Reality Check: Choosing Feelings, Indirectly

How are you feeling? If you’re feeling good, can you hang on to that feeling? If you’re feeling bad, can you change that feeling? Last column, I said that Dr. Glasser offers an approach toward gaining control over our feelings. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Present Day

We have so many opportunities to find reasons to be upset, anxious, angry, or have other difficult feelings. Your upsets might come from your personal life, from the behaviour of people close to you, such as family, community, or workplace. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Name That Emotion

What emotion are you feeling right now? Take a moment; think about it. Is it curiosity? Joy? Sadness? Enthusiasm? Frustration? Loneliness? Optimism? It’s easy to develop a belief that our emotions control us and that we don’t have much say … Continue reading

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Reality Check: While We’re Waiting…

Are you waiting for something? I’ll bet that you are! Right now, I’m waiting for an appointment date, an order that hasn’t arrived, and a clarification promised by a company. And I’m sure that if I think harder, I can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Do We Deserve?

“I don’t deserve this!” I’m sure you’ve heard it said and maybe even said it yourself. A typical context is, “I’m a good person. I don’t deserve this bad thing that’s happening to me.” You could be right. We see … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Encourages You?

Encouragement makes a difference in people’s lives. OK, that may just be my opinion, but I’m sticking with it. What do you think? Do you act differently when you are feeling encouraged compared to when you are discouraged? My observation … Continue reading

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Reality Check: It Takes Two to Insult

They say that it takes two to tango, but that’s not all! Lots of activities depend on cooperation, and it’s important to cooperate in many situations. Is cooperation always the right thing? Of course not. When it’s an evil, destructive, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Things That Are Working

As the grey days of winter set in, spirits can turn grey too. Winter is coming; will it be a hard one or an easy one? Predictions aren’t perfect, but it’s safe to say it’ll get colder and there will … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can Good Come From Setbacks?

“How’s it going?” Has anyone asked you that recently? If so, how do you respond? Often we say, “Fine,” regardless of what’s happening. It is a practical answer, especially if we believe that the person asking isn’t really interested in … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Sticking to the Plan

When I recently reviewed my to-do list, I was pleasantly surprised to see that I had accomplished more than I had realized! Perceptions are funny. Lots of factors contribute to how we perceive whether we are making progress. Brand new … Continue reading

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