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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances

The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Perceptions and Reputations

One upside of living in this internet-connected world is that we have so much access to useful information. But there’s always a downside, isn’t there? Here’s one. While it’s easy to access information, it’s also easy to produce information. Websites, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is it an Annoyance or an Adventure?

Different people, as we know, prefer different things. Some people enjoy spontaneity; others view anything unplanned as chaos and confusion. Dr. Glasser uses the term Quality World to refer to our collection of what we want the most. To use … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is it Time to Change the Filter?

Filters are useful. If we don’t have the right air filter, oil filter, or coffee filter, some tasks just can’t be done. We have other filters too; ones that we can’t see but that still affect our lives. Their effects … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Other People’s Futures

We know that we can only take action in the present. Even so, do you find that the future is very much in your thoughts? Why? If you want to consider a Choice Theory explanation, we could look at what … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Pieces of the Past

We can only act in the present day. We already know that, but sometimes it helps to get a reminder. Even though we might like to change what we’ve done (because we’re so much wiser now, right?) we can’t undo … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Feelings, Indirectly

How are you feeling? If you’re feeling good, can you hang on to that feeling? If you’re feeling bad, can you change that feeling? Last column, I said that Dr. Glasser offers an approach toward gaining control over our feelings. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Present Day

We have so many opportunities to find reasons to be upset, anxious, angry, or have other difficult feelings. Your upsets might come from your personal life, from the behaviour of people close to you, such as family, community, or workplace. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Name That Emotion

What emotion are you feeling right now? Take a moment; think about it. Is it curiosity? Joy? Sadness? Enthusiasm? Frustration? Loneliness? Optimism? It’s easy to develop a belief that our emotions control us and that we don’t have much say … Continue reading

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Reality Check: While We’re Waiting…

Are you waiting for something? I’ll bet that you are! Right now, I’m waiting for an appointment date, an order that hasn’t arrived, and a clarification promised by a company. And I’m sure that if I think harder, I can … Continue reading

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