Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour

Reality Check: The Kindness of Etiquette

Posted on November 5, 2023 by RealityCheck

If the name “Miss Manners” is familiar to you, that says something about your interests. And possibly, your age. And my age, for that matter. No matter. Here’s a little background, in case Miss Manners is new to you. Decades … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Naming Names

Posted on September 26, 2023 by RealityCheck

The previous post about head-banging (and how we might avoid it), has encouraged me to look further at communications. If we deliberately choose how we communicate, might that help with everyday problems? Everyone has difficulties that have to be dealt … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Instead of Head-Banging…

Posted on September 26, 2023 by RealityCheck

You may have heard that “customer service ain’t what it used to be.” This may be true. While I’m not convinced that poor service is universal, I’ve certainly heard anecdotes that indicate appalling lack of care. It’s enough to make … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: I Wonder…

Posted on September 26, 2023 by RealityCheck

Are you dealing with a challenging problem now? Do you see one coming up in the future? Or maybe you’ve recently resolved a problem. Problems are pretty common, so it’s not unusual to be in one of those boats at … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Fast or Slow?

Posted on September 3, 2023 by RealityCheck

As I was working on a project that hasn’t been proceeding as quickly and smoothly as I would like, I received an emailed newsletter. Now, here’s something that both you and I know about work. When doing a task that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Attentive Gardener

Posted on August 27, 2023 by RealityCheck

“The best fertilizer is the footsteps of the gardener.” Why? What is it about a gardener’s footsteps that would help a garden grow? While I fall far short from being an enthusiastic gardener, even I know that it’s hard to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Stories of Hope

Posted on August 13, 2023 by RealityCheck

In a parking lot the other day, I was approached by a young woman we’ll call Libby. I’d known her years ago, and it was a delight to see her and catch up. Her story was brimming with positives. A … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Unplanned Events That Change Our Lives

Posted on July 2, 2023 by RealityCheck

In my research on happiness, I came across a soon-to-be-released book titled “The Saad Truth About Happiness.” It’s by Gad Saad, professor of marketing at Concordia University in Montreal. Saad’s happiness suggestions are clear and practical; I’ll write about them … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Having Trouble Getting Started?

Posted on June 18, 2023 by RealityCheck

Wait, delay, and put it off. For some people, procrastination is practically an identity, as in, “I’ve always been a procrastinator and that’s just who I am.” This is fine, until it’s not. Putting off can ultimately result in poor … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When We Make A Change

Posted on June 11, 2023 by RealityCheck

The scenario outlined in my recent column on people-pleasing prompted comments from readers who agree—in that situation, it would be helpful if the people-pleaser made some changes. When we’re in a relationship where one person attempts to control the other, … Continue reading →

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