Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour

Reality Check: The Helping Professions

Many people have a genuine wish to be helpful; that is, to take actions that are of service to others. Wanting to help is a fine aspiration. To be of service benefits both the helper and those who are helped. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Upsides and Downsides

Is there such a thing as too much optimism? Does optimism have a downside? My general belief is that there are upsides and downsides for most everything. Thus the process of making choices is pretty simple, in theory anyway. All … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Face of Kindness

A common bit of advice for living a good life is, “Be kind.” I certainly agree. Kindness will likely result in better relationships, quality of life, and more happiness than being nasty. It’s obvious what it means to “be kind.” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Helpful Habits

What are your habits? What actions have you practiced so much that they are now a regular, perhaps even a mindless, part of life? Some habits are deliberate; we’ve consciously initiated them. For example, perhaps you practice the beneficial habit … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What you see is what you get

WYSIWYG, pronounced “whizzywig,” means, “What you see is what you get.” I know the phrase from the olden days of computers—back when it was a big deal to have the display on the screen actually reflect what was printed. Computer … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Telling It Like It Is

Do you find it difficult to talk about things that are really important? It’s easier to talk about the trivial, especially when we agree. We commiserate about the weather and the price of gas. We share our delight about the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Building a Relationship – Deliberately

We might take the building of relationships for granted. Relationships just happen—we meet someone; we hit it off for whatever reason, and we have a relationship! To be clear, I’m not referring to romantic relationships here. I’m talking about the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choices in Conflict

What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Grow Accountability

I have many good intentions. Perhaps you do, too! Those intentions include plans for what I will do for others as well as what I need or want to do for myself. They range from lofty to mundane; from developing … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Structure for a Satisfying Life

The upside of dissatisfaction is that it can be a useful motivator to drive improvement. That’s grasping at straws to find a positive spin, isn’t it? Seriously though, if we had no dissatisfaction, why would we ever improve? One area … Continue reading

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