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Reality Check: The Wisdom of the Second Look

When we cross a busy street, we look both ways to make sure the coast is clear. It’s often prudent to take a second look before we set out, as we might overlook a potential threat the first time. If … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Thing About Control

A long, long time ago, I was on a flight to Cape Breton for a meeting. Everything was going smoothly. I parked at the airport; had my ticket; knew where I was going and who to meet. I was prepared … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Simple Thank You

Do you offer compliments? If so, is it rarely, only when someone has done something truly extraordinary? Or does giving compliments come easily to you? Now, how about receiving compliments? Can you accept a compliment without embarrassment, shrugging it off, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Expanding Happiness

Picture an image of everything that brings happiness to you. All the people, the places, the things, even the values and ideas; everything that brings you joy. Is your picture huge? Does it contain a wide selection of satisfying things? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances

The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Get Back On Course

When events in our lives go awry, we may develop the perception that life is just one bad thing after another. It’s overwhelming. Some time ago, I asked, “What do you do when events throw you off course?” The suggestions … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Will You Ever Grow, Moso?

In his book, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together,” Dr. Bob Wubbolding tells a little story about the Moso bamboo. According to Dr. Bob, it can take years of persistent care and watering of seeds before … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What I Didn’t Know Then

Choice Theory is focused on the present day. Why? “All you have any control over is what you do right now” is how Dr. Glasser puts it in “Choice Theory.” We can’t change the past, but many of us with … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When You’re Thrown Off Course

In our lives, we may have blissful times. Those are the days when everything is going smoothly. Relationships with friends and family are warm and satisfying, work or purpose is well in hand and headed in the direction that you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Perceptions and Reputations

One upside of living in this internet-connected world is that we have so much access to useful information. But there’s always a downside, isn’t there? Here’s one. While it’s easy to access information, it’s also easy to produce information. Websites, … Continue reading

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