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Reality Check: Worry, Control and Superpowers
Last time, I mentioned the catchphrase, “Worrying about things over which I have no control is my superpower.” We know it’s a joke. But jokes can contain grains of truth, and for some, that joke hits uncomfortably close to reality. … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, internal & external control, worry
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Reality Check: Speaking of Superpowers
At a home decor store recently, I found something that I thought would amuse my friend. The store features inspirational feel-good products, like signs that tell us to “Live, Laugh, Love.” I chose an item with this message: “Worrying about … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, internal & external control, worry
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Reality Check: Alternatives to Anger
Last time, I wrote about Dr. Glasser’s rather unusual way of discussing emotional states. He suggests that we use language that reflects that we have choices, such as, “I am choosing to be anxious,” rather than “I am anxious.” It’s … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, feelings, freedom, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Can We Choose Our Feelings?
Do you remember grammar lessons? For most of us, I suspect it’s been a while since we’ve thought much about nouns and verbs and the rest of it. However, anyone whose livelihood depends on selling products, telling stories or influencing … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing thoughts, feelings, internal & external control
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Reality Check: When No Response Is a Good Response
Have you ever been subjected to the sting of putdowns or criticisms? If so, you may have been briefly annoyed. However, in some circumstances, the hurt could persist for a long, long time. There are people who seem to enjoy … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, confidence, conflict
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Reality Check: The Deliberate and the Impulsive
Impulsive action or deliberate action? If you’re looking for a standard to guide your life, which do you think will lead to more effective results? Impulsive actions can be appealing. The very word “spontaneous” sounds like fun, doesn’t it? Unexpected … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, improving relationships, making choices
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Reality Check: Wherever you go
Once upon a time, a woman I’ll call Tilley knew that she had to move. As she went looking for a new home, she came across a nice-looking neighbourhood. Bob happened to be out walking his dog, so Tilley struck … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged conflict, happiness, improving relationships, perception, reality
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Reality Check: The World We Want
Is the world the way you would like it to be? I can think of some possibilities for improvement; you probably can too. Let’s try a less ambitious question, “Is your life the way you would like it to be?” … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged comparing with others, examining wants
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