Author Archives: Suuze

Reality Check: The Helping Professions

Many people have a genuine wish to be helpful; that is, to take actions that are of service to others. Wanting to help is a fine aspiration. To be of service benefits both the helper and those who are helped. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Joy:Cost Ratio

There’s a little guy who occasionally passes by my office door. Whenever he does, he exclaims, “I’ve got my thinking cat on!” It’s adorable. No matter how busy or stressed or distracted I am, I get pure joy for those … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Upsides and Downsides

Is there such a thing as too much optimism? Does optimism have a downside? My general belief is that there are upsides and downsides for most everything. Thus the process of making choices is pretty simple, in theory anyway. All … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What does your mind rest upon?

Dr. Rick Hanson writes a regular email newsletter called Just One Thing, subtitled, “Simple practices for resilient happiness.” In a recent publication, he said, “There is a traditional saying that the mind takes its shape from what it rests upon.” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Things People Say

Everybody’s heard about Treena’s embarrassing situation. At least, that’s her perception. Her boss, neighbours, relatives, friends, and acquaintances know that she did something bad and was caught. It was even in the paper, ensuring that every single person knows it. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Face of Kindness

A common bit of advice for living a good life is, “Be kind.” I certainly agree. Kindness will likely result in better relationships, quality of life, and more happiness than being nasty. It’s obvious what it means to “be kind.” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Much Ado About Recognition

The onset of summer is a great time of year. There’s fresh grass, baby birds, the promise of warmth, and maybe even some leisure time! For me, this time of year often coincides with finalizing some activities and interactions. Thus, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Attitude About Forgetting

Last post, I used a personal example to discuss the challenge of forgetfulness. I had devoted considerable time learning how to use a piece of software. But by the time I needed to use that knowledge, it seemed that all … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Challenge of Forgetfulness

Do you believe that you are forgetful? If so, do you find that troubling? Recently, I explored some research around learning and what we might do to help people retain what they’ve learned. I had looked at this research before, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Helpful Habits

What are your habits? What actions have you practiced so much that they are now a regular, perhaps even a mindless, part of life? Some habits are deliberate; we’ve consciously initiated them. For example, perhaps you practice the beneficial habit … Continue reading

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