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Reality Check: Tension

In his book, Counseling with Choice Theory, Dr. Wm. Glasser describes his first meeting with a guy he calls Jerry. When Jerry walked into Glasser’s office for their first session, he avoided walking on the lines in the carpet. Then … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Company We Keep

Depending on who you talk to, the world is either on the brink of destruction or it’s approaching a golden age of peace and prosperity. Yes, both perceptions exist. You might not have realized that, because we seem to hear … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys

Of the clever book titles I’ve found, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them The Keys” by Dr. Mike Bechtle is among the catchiest. Bechtle clearly identifies that there are some things we can change and other … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Essence of Home

What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World

Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What would you choose?

A story told by Dr. Glasser in Choice Theory describes a mother-daughter relationship that had once been good but has now turned sour. Mom works all day. She comes home; her teenage daughter is lazing around watching TV. The kitchen … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Doing our Best

What does it mean to do our best? As I’m far from perfect, I know that the best that I can do in a given situation isn’t necessarily the best that could be done. If “doing our best” doesn’t mean … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing your Worry Boundaries

Can we choose to worry? Can we choose not to worry? If you identify yourself as a worrier, then the idea that you could choose not to worry probably sounds unrealistic. So let’s try this different, but related, question: Can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To be Deliberate

It’s probably the influence of advertising, but the word “mindfulness” for me conjures up the image of a lovely woman in a yoga pose. Waterfalls, peace, and harmony abound. Being mindful—paying attention to the present moment—is a really helpful practice. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Come by Chance

A tool that is often suggested to help us be happier and more satisfied is the practice of gratitude. You’ve seen it recommended here and probably elsewhere, too. It is, indeed, well and good to be grateful, count our blessings, … Continue reading

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