Tag Archives: internal & external control

Reality Check: Compartments for Life

One stunningly beautiful day recently, I noticed that I wasn’t fully appreciating the warmth and the beauty. Instead, I was ruminating. The thoughts popping into my head all had to do with concerns and difficulties. Have you noticed that yourself? … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Compartments for Life

Reality Check: Getting in the Mood

Are we prisoners of our moods? Some days we feel great from the moment we wake up; others not so much. Why? We could blame the weather. Maybe it’s that incomprehensible jumble of hormones inside our bodies. Or it could … Continue reading

Posted in Control and Choice | Tagged , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Getting in the Mood

Reality Check: Does Blaming Stop Us From Doing?

If you are down on your luck, you may heard that you need to adopt a “can-do attitude.” The most effective promoters of “can-do” are folks who have been through hard times themselves. It can be inspiring to hear a … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Does Blaming Stop Us From Doing?

Reality Check: Choosing Your Lens

When we try on different glasses, it’s clear that the lens we use makes a huge difference in what we see. Some lenses make everything clearer; others muddy and distort. In these troubled times, some are looking through an exclusively … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Choosing Your Lens

Reality Check: What’s in a Bribe?

When you think of bribery (if you ever do) what comes to mind? Scenes of brown paper bags stuffed with cash, surreptitiously dropped into the hands of corrupt, powerful people? In his book, “Take Charge of Your Life,” Dr. Glasser … Continue reading

Posted in Control and Choice | Tagged , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: What’s in a Bribe?

Reality Check: Tension

In his book, Counseling with Choice Theory, Dr. Wm. Glasser describes his first meeting with a guy he calls Jerry. When Jerry walked into Glasser’s office for their first session, he avoided walking on the lines in the carpet. Then … Continue reading

Posted in Control and Choice | Tagged , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Tension

Reality Check: The Company We Keep

Depending on who you talk to, the world is either on the brink of destruction or it’s approaching a golden age of peace and prosperity. Yes, both perceptions exist. You might not have realized that, because we seem to hear … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: The Company We Keep

Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys

Of the clever book titles I’ve found, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them The Keys” by Dr. Mike Bechtle is among the catchiest. Bechtle clearly identifies that there are some things we can change and other … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys

Reality Check: The Essence of Home

What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: The Essence of Home

Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World

Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged , , , | Comments Off on Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World