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Reality Check: Distinguishing Events from Responses

Posted on July 31, 2022 by RealityCheck

“The pandemic affected almost every aspect of our lives.” Like you, I’ve heard statements similar to that over recent years. It’s been said both in casual conversations and in media. This time, for some reason, it struck me as being … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Adapting, Changing, and Getting Along

Posted on March 14, 2022 by RealityCheck

Change. Does it seem to you that we’ve been experiencing constant change? Both the viral disease and responses to the threat of that disease have brought changes that affect millions of people. Into this ever-changing environment now comes what? More … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Real Gift

Posted on December 26, 2021 by RealityCheck

Gift-giving is top of mind for many people at this time of year. While the unusual circumstances of the last two years may have changed some perspectives about what is important, gift purchases are still common. We buy products or … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Grumbling and Gratitudes

Posted on December 5, 2021 by RealityCheck

Has anyone done you wrong at any point in your life? I suspect that it’s a rare person who could answer, “No.” For most, at some point, someone did not treat us well. Have you also noticed that many grievances … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: You and Me Against the Problem

Posted on October 4, 2021 by RealityCheck

Just when everything seemed to be going well, Amy got a wakeup call. It was a “heart incident,” and it demanded that she turn her attention toward aspects of her life that she had neglected. You probably know the drill. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Does Blaming Stop Us From Doing?

Posted on July 4, 2021 by RealityCheck

If you are down on your luck, you may heard that you need to adopt a “can-do attitude.” The most effective promoters of “can-do” are folks who have been through hard times themselves. It can be inspiring to hear a … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Go, Team

Posted on June 6, 2021 by RealityCheck

Are you part of a team? If you play sports or belong to a work team, then the answer is easily, “Yes.” You might belong to a less formal association, like a community group where people come together with a … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Benefit of Mistakes

Posted on April 11, 2021 by RealityCheck

“Oops! I made a mistake.” Is there anyone out there who genuinely believes that they’ve never made a mistake? If that’s you, then I guess you can stop reading now. This column is for the rest of us—the mere mortals. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Year in Perspective

Posted on December 20, 2020 by RealityCheck

In “Choice Theory,” Dr. Glasser tells the story of a mother who is travelling with her infant. The baby screams through the whole three-hour flight. Mom tries everything she can think of; nothing helps. You can probably understand why the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Tension Between Safety and Freedom

Posted on December 6, 2020 by RealityCheck

People do the strangest things, don’t they? Sometimes you shake your head in disbelief. Yet for any of us, I suspect that there are times when an observer would think our own actions quite irrational. An observer can only see … Continue reading →

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