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Reality Check: A Year in Perspective
In “Choice Theory,” Dr. Glasser tells the story of a mother who is travelling with her infant. The baby screams through the whole three-hour flight. Mom tries everything she can think of; nothing helps. You can probably understand why the … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged anxiety, blame, choosing influences, choosing thoughts
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Reality Check: The Tension Between Safety and Freedom
People do the strangest things, don’t they? Sometimes you shake your head in disbelief. Yet for any of us, I suspect that there are times when an observer would think our own actions quite irrational. An observer can only see … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged "should", basic needs, blame, choosing actions, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Five Second Rule
Do you know the five second rule? Maybe it’s the ten second rule. Either way, it’s the rule/myth that when a piece of food hits the floor, it’s still edible if it’s picked up right away. You know, of course, … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, conflict, happiness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Value of Work
Work and workplaces have changed over the past weeks. Some changes are dramatic, with workplaces completely shut down. Other workplaces carry on with relatively minor changes. Whether it’s your work that’s affected, or it’s your experience as a consumer, I’m … Continue reading
Reality Check: The Company We Keep
Depending on who you talk to, the world is either on the brink of destruction or it’s approaching a golden age of peace and prosperity. Yes, both perceptions exist. You might not have realized that, because we seem to hear … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged anxiety, blame, choosing influences, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: The Urge to Justify
Most of us have been on the receiving end of criticism at some point. If that’s you, then you may also be familiar with the urge to respond by justifying your actions. Criticism sometimes comes from the people closest to … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, criticism, discouragement, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: The Workplace Feud
Do you remember the old western movies that featured families fighting each other for generations? The original dispute is long forgotten, but the hatred continues. Feuds aren’t confined to families, and one place where they are particularly unhelpful is in … Continue reading
Reality Check: Both Sides True
When we have a disagreement, whether with an individual or a whole group of people, it’s common to think uncharitable thoughts about those on the other side. After all, it goes without saying that we are correct on the issue. … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged blame, choosing influences, dissatisfaction, perception, reality, work
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Reality Check: Caution! Mindreading While Listening
When doing an important task, it works best if you concentrate fully on that one task while you are doing it. For example, you and I both know better than to text while driving. Driving is an important task, and … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, choosing thoughts, conflict, criticism, helpful, perception
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Reality Check: The Benefit of the Doubt
We never really know what’s going on inside someone else’s head, do we? Even among the people closest to us—our friends and family—we can have misunderstandings. For example, your friend says something you perceive to be offensive; later you realize … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, conflict, improving relationships, perception, work
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