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Reality Check: Fishing for Choices
A story about halibut fishing in Alaska recently caught my attention. Now, I’m not generally interested in halibut fishing, and although Alaska is undoubtedly lovely, it doesn’t hold any special appeal for me. What intrigued me was that the story … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, conflict, criticism, dissatisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: To Speak or To Hold Your Peace
Do you ever have moments in conversation when you wonder, “Should I speak up? Or is it better to bite my tongue?” In some cases, it can seem like we don’t even have a choice. Let’s say someone has said … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, conflict, criticism, encouragement
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Reality Check: When We Don’t See Eye to Eye
A snippet of overheard conversation reminded me of a common source of relationship conflicts. It’s the idea that the people close to you should share your opinions. In this case, a young woman we’ll call Liz was venting her frustration … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged conflict, criticism, examining wants, perception
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Reality Check: Messages That Matter
Have you ever received feedback that you didn’t want to hear? Yet, once you’ve heard it, you realize that even though it’s painful, it’s true. When someone we love and trust points out that our actions are leading us in … Continue reading
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Tagged criticism, encouragement, offering information, perception
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Reality Check: Would You Listen to Yourself?
For this post, I’ve chosen the headline, “Would you listen to yourself?” This simple question could be perceived quite differently by different people. What do you think it means? Some folks would interpret it as an expression of exasperation. Even … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, criticism, offering information, perception
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Reality Check: The Sharp Edge
Criticism is a double-edged sword, and that sword can have one very sharp edge. I say it’s “double-edged,” because some criticism may be intended to be helpful (referred to as “constructive criticism.”) More likely, however, criticism results in hurt rather … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", criticism, discouragement, offering information
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Reality Check: Burden or Honour?
For some time, Carole has been caring for her mom, Beatrice. Carole is the logical caregiver; others have neither the skills nor the temperament to be able to effectively care for Beatrice. Beatrice is what we might call “a character.” … Continue reading
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Tagged criticism, discouragement, gratitude, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: More Alike Than Different
In his bestseller, “All Things Being Equal,” author John Mighton proposes that widespread math competence could be the key to a better, more just world. What’s your reaction to that? I’m guessing that it might be anywhere from, “Yes, obviously!” … Continue reading
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Tagged conflict, criticism, frustration, improving relationships
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Reality Check: A Real Gift
Gift-giving is top of mind for many people at this time of year. While the unusual circumstances of the last two years may have changed some perspectives about what is important, gift purchases are still common. We buy products or … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing influences, conflict, criticism, examining wants
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Reality Check: The Joy of Diverse Opinions
Wouldn’t it be great if we all agreed? We’d live in peace and harmony! However, to quote Dr. Glasser, “We all want a perfect world populated by perfect people like us, but that world has never existed. If it did, … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing thoughts, conflict, criticism, examining wants, improving relationships
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