Tag Archives: discouragement

Reality Check: To Get Back On Course

Posted on August 30, 2025 by RealityCheck

When events in our lives go awry, we may develop the perception that life is just one bad thing after another. It’s overwhelming. Some time ago, I asked, “What do you do when events throw you off course?” The suggestions … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: One Good Thing

Posted on May 9, 2025 by RealityCheck

“Structured reality therapy” is an approach that Dr. Wm. Glasser developed and used for marriage counselling. Like some other aspects of Choice Theory, the process sounds almost simplistic; essentially it begins by having both people answer five straightforward questions. Simplicity, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Things That Are Working

Posted on December 1, 2024 by RealityCheck

As the grey days of winter set in, spirits can turn grey too. Winter is coming; will it be a hard one or an easy one? Predictions aren’t perfect, but it’s safe to say it’ll get colder and there will … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can Good Come From Setbacks?

Posted on November 24, 2024 by RealityCheck

“How’s it going?” Has anyone asked you that recently? If so, how do you respond? Often we say, “Fine,” regardless of what’s happening. It is a practical answer, especially if we believe that the person asking isn’t really interested in … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Satisfaction of Being Useful

Posted on October 27, 2024 by RealityCheck

Dr. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” is subtitled, “How to get what you need with choice theory psychology.” In it, we are encouraged to make our choices deliberately and to evaluate the results. We have to make choices … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: People Who Cope

Posted on July 28, 2024 by RealityCheck

When you think of your circle of friends and acquaintances, you may be able to identify some who fit into a category I call “people who cope.” These are the folks who seem to know what to do, no matter … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Have You Had a Laugh Today?

Posted on April 28, 2024 by RealityCheck

There are times when laughter may be the furthest thing from our minds. We are, after all, mature responsible adults. We need to be sensible, serious, and handle things. We may not see much room or opportunity for the frivolity … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Your Surroundings

Posted on January 28, 2024 by RealityCheck

It’s the dead of winter. Snow is falling, cold winds are blowing; there is ice wherever you want to walk. In the midst of this dull and often non-productive time, an amaryllis bulb that I’ve had for years is starting … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Doing the Hard Thing

Posted on January 7, 2024 by RealityCheck

Tis the season! Christmas and New Year’s is a special time of the year. It’s a time of joy and goodwill, when family and friends get together to celebrate, indulge in good food, give gifts and share laughs. Strangers extend … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Even If…

Posted on November 26, 2023 by RealityCheck

Allen’s story is one that’s experienced in many families. His mother isn’t doing well. His dad is terrified by the inevitable changes that are coming. Allen has moved so he can be with his parents and take care of the … Continue reading →

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