Tag Archives: choosing thoughts

Reality Check: While We’re Waiting…

Are you waiting for something? I’ll bet that you are! Right now, I’m waiting for an appointment date, an order that hasn’t arrived, and a clarification promised by a company. And I’m sure that if I think harder, I can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: One Good Thing

“Structured reality therapy” is an approach that Dr. Wm. Glasser developed and used for marriage counselling. Like some other aspects of Choice Theory, the process sounds almost simplistic; essentially it begins by having both people answer five straightforward questions. Simplicity, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Do We Deserve?

“I don’t deserve this!” I’m sure you’ve heard it said and maybe even said it yourself. A typical context is, “I’m a good person. I don’t deserve this bad thing that’s happening to me.” You could be right. We see … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring

Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Curious Quest

Everyone has an opinion about something. And some people seem to have opinions about everything! While this can make for lively conversation, differences in opinion can also result in hard feelings. Our lives go a little more smoothly when we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Encourages You?

Encouragement makes a difference in people’s lives. OK, that may just be my opinion, but I’m sticking with it. What do you think? Do you act differently when you are feeling encouraged compared to when you are discouraged? My observation … Continue reading

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Reality Check: It Takes Two to Insult

They say that it takes two to tango, but that’s not all! Lots of activities depend on cooperation, and it’s important to cooperate in many situations. Is cooperation always the right thing? Of course not. When it’s an evil, destructive, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Things That Are Working

As the grey days of winter set in, spirits can turn grey too. Winter is coming; will it be a hard one or an easy one? Predictions aren’t perfect, but it’s safe to say it’ll get colder and there will … Continue reading

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Reality Check: If the cat would only change

Have you ever heard yourself saying, “If only [fill in whatever name you like here] would behave more sensibly. If only they’d pay attention. If only they were more responsible. You know, if only they would act like we want … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Speak or To Hold Your Peace

Do you ever have moments in conversation when you wonder, “Should I speak up? Or is it better to bite my tongue?” In some cases, it can seem like we don’t even have a choice. Let’s say someone has said … Continue reading

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