Site Map

Pages

• About
• Contact
• Overview
• Privacy Policy
• Site Map

Posts by category

• Category: Choosing Behaviour
  • Reality Check: The Many Ways to Serve
  • Reality Check: She Said “Thank You”!
  • Reality Check: What We Can Learn From Our Decisions
  • Reality Check: Placing the Big Rock First
  • Reality Check: Doing the Hard Thing
  • Reality Check: Positive Peer Pressure
  • Reality Check: The Kindness of Etiquette
  • Reality Check: Naming Names
  • Reality Check: Instead of Head-Banging…
  • Reality Check: I Wonder…
  • Reality Check: Fast or Slow?
  • Reality Check: The Attentive Gardener
  • Reality Check: Unplanned Events That Change Our Lives
  • Reality Check: Having Trouble Getting Started?
  • Reality Check: What a Gift Can Do
  • Reality Check: The Effect of Small Encouragements
  • Reality Check: Auto-Pilot and Conscious Choices
  • Reality Check: Step by Step
  • Reality Check: Running for the Roses
  • Reality Check: Other People’s Choices
  • Reality Check: Urgency and Importance
  • Reality Check: I’d Rather Choose…
  • Reality Check: The Wrong Number
  • Reality Check: Getting around to procrastination
  • Reality Check: Realistic and Attainable
  • Reality Check: Adding Value
  • Reality Check: Strategy for Forgetfulness
  • Reality Check: Spinning Our Wheels
  • Reality Check: The Trade-offs We Choose
  • Reality Check: Managing our Personal Resources
  • Reality Check: Productive Uses of Time
  • Reality Check: Upsides and Downsides
  • Reality Check: The Face of Kindness
  • Reality Check: What you see is what you get
  • Reality Check: Telling It Like It Is
  • Reality Check: Building a Relationship – Deliberately
  • Reality Check: To Grow Accountability
  • Reality Check: Structure for a Satisfying Life
  • Reality Check: Choosing Happiness from your Money
  • Reality Check: The Available Choices
  • Reality Check: Indecision, Imperfection, and Kale
  • Reality Check: Relaxation and Everyday Anxiety
  • Reality Check: Going My Way?
  • Reality Check: The Rather Card
  • Reality Check: Attachment to Things
  • Reality Check: Should, Could, Would Like to
  • Reality Check: The Abuse of Courtesy
  • Reality Check: Bad News Bearers
  • Reality Check: All Work and All Play
  • Reality Check: Practice Makes Better
  • Reality Check: To Rely and to Be Reliable
  • Reality Check: Proactive Happiness
  • Reality Check: Demonstrations of Love
  • Reality Check: Another Route to Self-Esteem
  • Reality Check: Bears, Breakdowns & Choice Theory
  • Reality Check: Work Hard, Be Nice, Keep Commitments
  • Reality Check: Lessons from Puzzles
  • Reality Check: Terminal Choice
  • Reality Check: Do, Run, Run…
  • Reality Check: Doers and Dreamers
  • Reality Check: The Impulse to Vent
  • Reality Check: The Voter’s Choice
  • Reality Check: Time to Double Down?
  • Reality Check: The Worry-Weed Patch
  • Reality Check: Scorekeeping and Self-Evaluation
  • Reality Check: The Choice Not Taken
  • Reality Check: Information in Action
  • Reality Check: The Angry Stance
  • Reality Check: To Choose or Not to Choose?
  • Reality Check: The Value of Delayed Gratification
  • Reality Check: “Should” versus “Could”
  • Reality Check: Recalculating
  • Reality Check: Comfort, Joy, and Food
  • Reality Check: The Reaction Rut
  • Reality Check: The Satisfaction of Small Steps
  • Reality check: Forgetfulness Choices
  • Reality Check: Worried about becoming my dad (or mom) syndrome?
  • Reality Check: More Choice Language
  • Reality Check: The Words of Choice
  • Reality Check: Remembering the “Why” of To-do
  • Reality Check: So, you’re angry. Who’s in charge?
  • Reality Check: Entertaining Options
  • Reality Check: The Gift in the Event
  • Reality Check: Strong, Wise, or Stubborn?
  • Reality Check: Own It!
  • Reality Check: When Evaluation Gets Personal
  • Reality Check: Wit’s end?
  • Reality Check: I Regret that I Cannot…
  • Reality Check: The Value of Reducing Waste
  • Reality Check: New Year’s Values
  • Reality Check: Stewing on a Setback
  • Reality Check: Your own influence
  • Reality Check: Dr. Glasser’s influence
  • Reality Check: The Dragonfly’s Options
  • Reality Check: The Goal
  • Reality Check: Saddle Up!
  • Reality Check: The Fight That Never Happens
  • Reality Check: Hot Buttons
  • Reality Check: Evaluate your Information
  • Reality Check: Hoped-for results
  • Reality Check: For a fresh start, write your “wants”
  • Reality Check: Optimism or Pessimism: Can you choose?
  • Reality Check: Who’s the most effective saboteur?
  • Reality Check: At the mercy of events?
  • Reality Check: Effective Living in a Material World
  • Reality Check: A Material World
  • Reality Check: The Virtue of Asking
  • Reality Check: From Self-Evaluation to Change
  • Reality Check: The Hard Work of Positive Thinking
  • Reality Check: Resilient Children; Resilient Adults
  • Reality Check: Who’s holding the pen?
  • Reality Check: Taking Active Control
  • Reality Check: The Fairest of Them All
  • Reality Check: Workable Conflict
  • Reality Check: An Unworkable Conflict
  • Contradictory Behaviours
  • Self evaluate your behavioural choices
  • What makes a choice effective?
  • Rain or Shine, Choose to have a good time
  • Tame Choice Overload with Direction
  • Tame Choice Overload, Categorically
  • Choice Overload?
  • If the cat would only change
  • Looking for Belonging
  • “Made” You Look!
  • What’s an Hour?
  • A Need-Satisfying New Year
  • A New Year, A New Suggestion
  • Communication: You can’t make me talk
  • Perception and Reality: What’s What?
  • Beating that No-Choice Feeling
  • Fixing Problems or Fixing Blame?
  • If you can’t always get what you want…
  • What’s in Your Quality World?
  • How do you choose behaviour, anyway?
  • What do you want?
  • Category: Helping Others
    • Reality Check: The “En” and “Dis” of Courage
    • Reality Check: What does it mean to be strong?
    • Reality Check: When We Recommend
    • Reality Check: The Encouragement of Youth
    • Reality Check: Providing Information
    • Reality Check: To Speak or to Avoid?
    • Reality Check: When Kids Get Scared
    • Reality Check: The Compassion of Listening
    • Reality Check: The Helping Professions
    • Reality Check: Greater Expectations
    • Reality Check: Influencers, Helpers, and Heroes
    • Reality Check: We can do it!
    • Reality Check: Your Power Source
    • Reality Check: Happiness and Self-Responsibility
    • Reality Check: Routes to Self-Esteem
    • Reality Check: The Value of Support
    • Reality Check: If I Know What’s Right for You…
    • Reality Check: Smart Praise
    • Reality Check: When Positive Thinking Meets External Control
    • Reality Check: The Value of Compassion
    • Reality Check: More Encouragement
    • Reality Check: An Encouraging Word
    • Reality Check: Fluffy, Revisited
    • Reality Check: Truth or Kindness?
    • Reality Check: The Offer of Information
    • Reality Check: Lessons from First Aid
    • Reality Check: Experiments in Encouragement
    • Reality Check: Young People Today…
    • Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror continued
    • Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror
    • Reality Check: Mottoes, Slogans, and Sayings
    • Reality Check: Speak up or stand down, continued
    • Control, Need-Satisfaction, and Alcohol
    • The Helping Agenda
    • When is Helping Helpful?
  • Category: Making a Change
    • Reality Check: Stories of Hope
    • Reality Check: When We Make A Change
    • Reality Check: “Good Thing” Accountability
    • Reality Check: Adapting for the Future
    • Reality Check: Building Purpose
    • Reality Check: The Making of a Habit
    • Reality Check: To Change Ourselves
    • Reality Check: Helpful Habits
    • Reality Check: Choices in Conflict
    • Reality Check: Your Menu Choices
    • Reality Check: A Chosen New Year
    • Reality Check: Aesop’s Snake
    • Reality Check: Change–Like It or Not, Part 2
    • Reality Check: Change–Like it or Not? Part 1
    • Reality Check: OPAAT
    • Reality Check: A Model of Motivation
    • Reality Check: Habit-Forming
    • Reality Check: The Gift of the Long View
    • Reality Check: Situational Confidence
    • Reality Check: Creating the Helpful Habit
    • Reality Check: Attitude in Action
    • Reality Check: Pattern Making
    • Reality Check: Worry Stoppers
    • Reality Check: The Behaviour of Worrying
    • Reality Check: To Temper a Temper
    • Reality Check: Possibilities and Potential
    • Reality Check: Can’t, Won’t, Don’t? or Can, Will, Do?
    • Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”
    • A New Year, A New Blog
    • The Choice Theory Attitude
    • The Frustration Signal
    • When Nobody Seems to Care
• Category: Choosing Perspective
  • Reality Check: The Obstacle Course
  • Reality Check: I Never Looked at “No” That Way
  • Reality Check: Choosing Our Perceptions
  • Reality Check: Messages That Matter
  • Reality Check: What Comes In; What Goes Out
  • Reality Check: Choosing Your Surroundings
  • Reality Check: The Next Step, and the Next
  • Reality Check: How Did It Go?
  • Reality Check: Describe Your Life
  • Reality Check: Even If…
  • Reality Check: The Tiny Point of Light
  • Reality Check: Adventures in Embarrassment
  • Reality Check: Legacy and Contribution
  • Reality Check: The Reboot Solution
  • Reality Check: The Thanksgiving Reminder
  • Reality Check: Fear or Excitement?
  • Reality Check: The Quest For What You Want
  • Reality Check: Do You Have a Happiness Sweet Spot?
  • Reality Check: Which List Do You Keep?
  • Reality Check: Looking for Light in the Tunnel
  • Reality Check: Are You Afraid That You’re Missing Out?
  • Reality Check: Have To? Or Get To?
  • Reality Check: And the Word of the Year is…
  • Reality Check: Gifts and Earned Successes
  • Reality Check: Technology, For Better or Worse?
  • Reality Check: How Can I Make This Work?
  • Reality Check: Would You Listen to Yourself?
  • Reality Check: Is it Overwork? Or Discouragement?
  • Reality Check: For the Hundredth Time
  • Reality Check: True to Our Chosen Self
  • Reality Check: Baggage Handling
  • Reality Check: Distinguishing Events from Responses
  • Reality Check: The Case for Living Optimistically
  • Reality Check: The Sharp Edge
  • Reality Check: Patience and Purpose
  • Reality Check: The Dashboards of our Lives
  • Reality Check: The Present Day
  • Reality Check: Burden or Honour?
  • Reality Check: Choosing Respect in Times of Turmoil
  • Reality Check: Lost and Found
  • Reality Check: What’s your outlook for today?
  • Reality Check: Past and Future Worries
  • Reality Check: More Alike Than Different
  • Reality Check: A Spirit of Hope
  • Reality Check: The Pep Talk
  • Reality Check: Grumbling and Gratitudes
  • Reality Check: When We Share Stories
  • Reality Check: To-Dos and Purpose
  • Reality Check: You and Me Against the Problem
  • Reality Check: When you tell yourself a story
  • Reality Check: Lessons from an Ice Cube
  • Reality Check: Earning and Power
  • Reality Check: Compartments for Life
  • Reality Check: Does Blaming Stop Us From Doing?
  • Reality Check: Dissatisfied But Not Sure Why?
  • Reality Check: Choosing Your Lens
  • Reality Check: The Unexpected Kindness
  • Reality Check: A Morning Outlook
  • Reality Check: Fear of Forgetfulness
  • Reality Check: How We Use Our Tools
  • Reality Check: Purpose, Feedback and Influence
  • Reality Check: Finding the Good Thing
  • Reality Check: The Actions of Optimism
  • Reality Check: A Look at Happiness
  • Reality Check: A Year in Perspective
  • Reality Check: The Actions of Gratitude
  • Reality Check: A Strength of Less-Social Folks
  • Reality Check: The Stories We Tell
  • Reality Check: Why Not Ask?
  • Reality Check: Another Positive to Negative Ratio
  • Reality Check: Essential Connections
  • Reality Check: Resources and Resourcefulness
  • Reality Check: Off the Rails?
  • Reality Check: Commencement
  • Reality Check: Doing the Hard Thing
  • Reality Check: Goals and the Posts That Define Them
  • Reality Check: Adaptability and Optimism
  • Reality Check: Thoughts on Going Viral
  • Reality Check: The Forest, the Trees and the Path
  • Reality Check: The Company We Keep
  • Reality Check: When we don’t like our advice
  • Reality Check: Courage and Discouragement
  • Reality Check: The Gift of a Deadline
  • Reality Check: The Dull of Winter
  • Reality Check: Take It to Heart? Or Not?
  • Reality Check: Reassessing Wants
  • Reality Check: Prepare, Then Forge On With Optimism
  • Reality Check: Recognizing Our Gifts
  • Reality Check: The Urge to Justify
  • Reality Check: Choosing Hope
  • Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys
  • Reality Check: The Essence of Home
  • Reality Check: The Mind Reader
  • Reality Check: Reflections from the Storm
  • Reality Check: Different wants for different folks
  • Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
  • Reality Check: The Joy:Cost Ratio
  • Reality Check: What does your mind rest upon?
  • Reality Check: The Challenge of Forgetfulness
  • Reality Check: The Joy of Ownership
  • Reality Check: What you see is…what you look for?
  • Reality Check: Caution! Mindreading While Listening
  • Reality Check: The Critic
  • Reality Check: Choosing to Find Joy in the Process
  • Reality Check: The Happiness Benefit
  • Reality Check: The Reality of Imperfection
  • Reality Check: Choosing Hope
  • Reality Check: Look Back, What Do You See?
  • Reality Check: Feelings for the Future
  • Reality Check: The Big Pile-On
  • Reality Check: What we choose to want
  • Reality Check: Same Reality, Different Perspectives
  • Reality Check: Can you do this?
  • Reality Check: Your Discouragement Antidote Kit
  • Reality Check: The Stories of our Scars
  • Reality Check: Our Own Reflections
  • Reality Check: Would you call your money names?
  • Reality Check: Loose Ends and Everyday Anxiety
  • Reality Check: I Am Only…
  • Reality Check: Onward!
  • Reality Check: Perspectives and Hats
  • Reality Check: Can your Belief Change your Reality?
  • Reality Check: Finding the Joy
  • Reality Check: The paradoxical freedom of structure
  • Reality Check: Doing our Best
  • Reality Check: The Value of Lobster
  • Reality Check: Choosing your Worry Boundaries
  • Reality Check: Come by Chance
  • Reality Check: Gratitude, Expectation, and Entitlement
  • Reality Check: Pictures of Celebration
  • Reality Check: The Question of Gravity
  • Reality Check: That Work/Life Balance
  • Reality Check: What does encouragement look like?
  • Reality Check: If your past was a yard sale…
  • Reality Check: Let’s talk failure…
  • Reality Check: Presuming Good Intent
  • Reality Check: An Anxiety Alternative
  • Reality Check: I Could Write Myself a Letter
  • Reality Check: What’s your predisposition?
  • Reality Check: The two sides of protection
  • Reality Check: Aged and Happy
  • Reality Check: Optimism or Entitlement?
  • Reality Check: Do you want to keep the hurt alive?
  • Reality Check: Barriers to Happiness
  • Reality Check: The Gift
  • Reality Check: Memories can be Beautiful
  • Reality Check: The Purpose of Difficulty?
  • Reality Check: The Shamrock Plant
  • Reality Check: Velcro or Teflon?
  • Reality Check: The Battle of the Hummingbirds
  • Reality Check: Choosing Your Restore Point
  • Reality Check: The Elevator Problem
  • Reality Check: Going My Way?
  • Reality Check: Making Your Meaning
  • Reality Check: Pigs, Cows, and Perceptions
  • Reality Check: If Only I Were…
  • Reality Check: Persistent or Stubborn?
  • Reality Check: Any Given Day
  • Reality Check: Presents and Presence
  • Reality Check: The Comparison that Works
  • Reality Check: Try a Different Stress Model?
• Category: Control and Choice
  • Reality Check: One Suggestion
  • Reality Check: What We Want and What We Control
  • Reality Check: The Paths We Select Through Our Choices
  • Reality Check: The Reality of Tradeoffs
  • Reality Check: When Someone Wants to Pick a Fight
  • Reality Check: When the Choice Isn’t Clear
  • Reality Check: The State of Stuck
  • Reality Check: When Times Are Tough
  • Reality Check: A New Year; A New System
  • Reality Check: Can We Choose Our Response?
  • Reality Check: The Bare Essentials
  • Reality Check: Getting in the Mood
  • Reality Check: What’s in a Bribe?
  • Reality Check: The Perfection Trap
  • Reality Check: Ready or Not?
  • Reality Check: Every Little Choice
  • Reality Check: The Urgent Request
  • Reality Check: Our Best Selves
  • Reality Check: Tension
  • Reality Check: The Value of Work
  • Reality Check: The Tradeoffs in our Choices
  • Reality Check: Strategies for Choice
  • Reality Check: Do your choices satisfy you?
  • Reality Check: The Minute of Kindness
  • Reality Check: Fear and the Unknown
  • Reality Check: What would you choose?
  • Reality Check: Guilt, Conscience, and Manipulation
  • Reality Check: The Battle for your Beliefs
  • Reality Check: Experiments in Liking
  • Reality Check: To be Deliberate
  • Reality Check: Unintended Effects
  • Reality Check: There will always be an Irma
  • Reality Check: Sidestep your Traps
  • Reality Check: Knowing who your friends are
  • Reality Check: Is It Just Too Much?
  • Reality Check: When there’s no perfect option
  • Reality Check: The Happiness of Eliminating Options
  • Reality Check: Choices of Conversation
  • Reality Check: The Time Trap
  • Reality Check: You’re a Character!
  • Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?
  • Reality Check: The Little Red Hens
• Category: Develop Understanding
  • Reality Check: Colouring Our Outlook
  • Reality Check: The Price of a Mistake
  • Reality Check: How Do You Know You’ve Understood?
  • Reality Check: May I Persuade You?
  • Reality Check: A Change of Mind
  • Reality Check: Fables and Values
  • Reality Check: The Joy and the Sadness of Special Events
  • Reality Check: Opinions, Beliefs, and Relationships
  • Reality Check: Defining the Good
  • Reality Check: Above and Beyond
  • Reality Check: What we say; What they hear
  • Reality Check: The Art of Asking Questions
  • Reality Check: Back to Basics
  • Reality Check: Finding Affinity
  • Reality Check: Both Sides True
  • Reality Check: Strength or Weakness?
  • Reality Check: Setting the Tone
  • Reality Check: The Accountability of Writing it Down
  • Reality Check: Take a Look Over Your Shoulder
  • Reality Check: If only you had come with an instruction manual…
  • Reality Check: Help Yourself? Here are some resources…
  • Reality Check: The Joy of Groundrules
  • Reality Check: The Joy of Mastery
  • Reality Check: Wisdom from Whys
  • Reality Check: When I Grow Up
• Category: Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology
  • Reality Check: Louder than Thoughts or Feelings
  • Reality Check: Body, Mind and Feelings
  • Reality Check: Trapped by Thoughts? Here’s a Suggestion
  • Reality Check: Tired and Cranky, Anyone?
  • Reality Check: When you doubt yourself
  • Reality Check: Dances with Feelings
  • Reality Check: Building Emotional Resources
  • Reality Check: Adversity: Can Thinking Help?
  • Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Positive Thinking
  • Reality Check: Facebook and Feelings
  • Reality Check: “Keys” to Self-Evaluation
  • Changing Those Discouraging Thoughts
  • Acting on “Discouraging”
  • On Discouragement
  • Packing the Behavioural Suitcase
  • Our Behavioural Suitcase
  • Do something differently with Total Behaviour
• Category: How it is sometimes
  • Reality Check: Mixed Messages
  • Reality Check: You’re probably not alone…
  • Reality Check: Blue Day Defenses
  • Reality Check: The Meltdown
  • Reality Check: High Anxietying
  • Reality Check: When Your Body Speaks Out
  • Reality Check: Are we there yet?
  • Reality Check: Archie, Meathead, and External Control
  • Reality Check: Forge on
  • Reality Check: They “should” know…
  • Reality Check: What do you do?
  • Reality Check: Manipulation and Consequences
  • Wherever you go, there you are
  • Category: Belonging
    • Reality Check: To Fill a Caring Gap
  • Category: Blame, Criticism & more
    • Reality Check: “Constructive” Criticism; Is it a Con?
    • Why? or What Now?
  • Category: Freedom...
    • Reality Check: The Need to be Free
  • Category: Fun
    • Reality Check: More Retirement Planning
  • Category: Guilt, Unfairness & more
    • Are you guilt-ing?
    • Ask guilty feelings these three questions
    • Guilty? Or Not Guilty?
  • Category: Needs
    • Reality Check: The Most Basic Need of All
    • Reality Check: For the Fun of It
    • Reality Check: Our Most Basic Needs
    • Reality Check: Understanding your need strength profile
  • Category: Power
    • Reality Check: When We Lose Power
    • Reality Check: Power in Retirement
• Category: Learning
  • Reality Check: Play and Learn
  • Reality Check: An Attitude About Forgetting
  • Reality Check: The Disillusioned Learner
  • Reality Check: Choosing a Mindset
  • Reality Check: Jimmy meets Mrs. Crabapple
  • Reality Check: Perception and Schooling
  • Behavioural Choices and Learning
  • Learning, Power, and Fun…
  • The Most Wonderful Time…
  • The Pure Teaching Agenda
• Category: Love & Belonging
  • Reality Check: The Belonging Problem
  • Love in Action
  • Reality Check: Cards of Connection
  • Reality Check: What Does Love & Support Look Like?
  • Reality Check: Retirement Planning
  • Reality Check: Love is a Verb
• Category: Overview
  • How would you like your life to be?
• Category: Perception & Reality
  • Reality Check: The Butterfly’s Quandary
  • Reality Check: Does Time Fly?
  • Reality Check: Your Unknown Impact
  • Reality Check: So What If I’m Rejected?
  • Reality Check: Are you the only one?
  • Reality Check: Important! Read This Immediately!
  • Reality Check: What We Measure
  • Reality Check: The Tension Between Safety and Freedom
  • Reality Check: The Upsides and Downsides of Filters
  • Reality Check: The Things People Say
  • Reality Check: That Which Strikes Fear
  • Reality Check: It wasn’t what I expected
  • Reality Check: I Heard a Story
  • Reality Check: Tell Yourself a Story
  • Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Perception
  • Reality Check: Perspectives on Luxury
  • Reality Check: Lessons from the Pond
  • Reality Check: The Treasure Hunt
  • Reality Check: The Big Sigh
  • Reality Check: The Value of Perspective
  • Reality Check: Here’s to a Satisfying Holiday
  • Reality Check: What does respect look like?
  • Reality Check: When Something Stinks
  • Reality Check: What Three Words?
  • Reality Check: A Filter For Your Thoughts
  • Reality Check: The Value of Taking the High Road
  • Reality Check: Esteem Essentials
  • Reality Check: A Tale of Two Dates
  • Reality Check: Windfall, Blessing or Burden?
  • Reality Check: Does thinking make it so?
  • Reality Check: Purpose and Information
  • Reality Check: Purpose and Power
  • Reality Check: Pride and Perceptions
• Category: Personal Freedom
  • Reality Check: Make Something Good Happen
  • Reality Check: The Benefit of Mistakes
  • Reality Check: Choosing Your Advisors
  • Reality Check: Lost for Words?
  • Reality Check: A Step in the “Take Charge” Direction
  • Reality Check: Other People’s Misery
  • Reality Check: Strings Attached
  • Reality Check: Manufacturing Outrage
  • Reality Check: The Happiness Choice
  • Reality Check: Great Expectations
  • Reality Check: Different people; different strengths
  • Reality Check: The computer made me do it…
  • Reality Check: Shaking Off External Control
  • Reality Check: Ease off External Control
  • Reality Check: A Picture of Perfection
  • Reality Check: What is closure, and how does one get it?
  • Reality Check: Overcoming a longstanding upset
  • Reality Check: Recognizing the Freedom to Choose
  • Reality Check: Choice and Personal Freedom
• Category: Relationships
  • Reality Check: Relationship Mistakes
  • Reality Check: Helpful and Unhelpful Conversations
  • Reality Check: Ups and Downs of People Pleasing
  • Reality Check: Negotiating Differences in a Relationship
  • Reality Check: The Habit of Respect
  • Reality Check: The Role of Trust in Relationships
  • Reality Check: Acceptance of Reality as a Caring Habit
  • Reality Check: The Caring Habit of Listening
  • Reality Check: Encouragement as a Caring Habit
  • Reality Check: The Caring Habit of Support
  • Reality Check: Starting with Goodwill
  • Reality Check: When You Need To Say No
  • Reality Check: Overcoming Reach-Out Hesitancy
  • Reality Check: Adapting, Changing, and Getting Along
  • Reality Check: A Real Gift
  • Reality Check: Finding the Courage to Compliment
  • Reality Check: Do You Feel Appreciated?
  • Reality Check: Lost for Words?
  • Reality Check: Disagreements Close to Home
  • Reality Check: The Joy of Diverse Opinions
  • Reality Check: Go, Team
  • Reality Check: The Companions on our Journey
  • Reality Check: Should I Tell My Story?
  • Reality Check: The Spirit of a Conversation
  • Reality Check: The Five Second Rule
  • Reality Check: Ratios and Relationships
  • Reality Check: Connecting with others
  • Reality Check: The Critical Eye
  • Reality Check: Agreements Among Friends
  • Reality Check: Working with Unpredictable People
  • Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?
  • Reality Check: Much Ado About Recognition
  • Reality Check: The Gift of Recognition
  • Reality Check: When Fairness Holds Us Back
  • Reality Check: Love, Clarified and Committed
  • Reality Check: Love, Practically Speaking
  • Reality Check: The Benefit of the Doubt
  • Reality Check: Choices in Caring
  • Reality Check: Random Acts at Home
  • Reality Check: Does the News Hurt Your Relationships?
  • Reality Check: Out of the Ashes
  • Reality Check:The Happiness of Turning Toward
  • Reality Check: The Fear of Being Hurtful
  • Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need
  • Reality Check: Marriage — Who’s in Charge?
  • Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
  • Reality Check: Thank you; I accept your offer
  • Reality Check: Mistake-Proofing for Relationships
  • Reality Check: Feeling Unappreciated?
  • Reality Check: The Scorekeeping Relationship
  • Reality Check: Better Left Unsaid?
  • Reality Check: Friendly Support
  • Reality Check: The Give and Take of Communication
  • Reality Check: A Sustainable Relationship
  • Reality Check: Do I want to be excused?
  • Reality Check: Their Good News
  • Reality Check: Boundaries and Disputes
  • Reality Check: Lots on your Plate?
  • Reality Check: A “Map” of Relationships
  • Reality Check: The People Business
  • Reality Check: Fume or Fun?
  • Reality Check: The Other Toxin
  • Reality Check: Turn Around
  • Reality Check: Apologies, Demands, and Power
  • Reality Check: Perspectives on Apologies
  • Reality Check: A little respect, please
  • Reality Check: Both Sides Now
  • Reality Check: Criticism—The Great Dissatisfier
  • Reality Check: Compatibility and need profiles
  • Reality Check: One Small Kind Act
  • Reality Check: Must we disagree?
  • Reality Check: Our label makers
  • Reality Check: For Real?
  • Reality Check: To be belittled, or not to be…
  • Reality Check: Facebook Envy?
  • Reality Check: Speak up or stand down?
  • Reality Check: If Romeo and Juliet knew Choice Theory…
  • Is it Nagging? Or Informing?
  • The Unspoken Bargain
  • The Friendship Agenda
  • Matchmaking Disconnections
  • Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
  • External Control vs. Happier Relationships
  • Lessons for Happier Relationships
  • Sam, Revisited
  • Closer or Further? You Choose!
  • Category: Family
    • Communication: The ‘How-to’ of Talking
    • Communication: What’s the Message?
    • A Plan for Now
    • Improving the Present
    • The Present
    • When the Answer Doesn’t Work for You
    • Asking, Options, and Conflict
    • Finding a Third Option for Conflict
    • Conflicts in the Quality World
    • Driving Toward Connection
  • Category: Marriage
    • Reality Check: What’s fair in love and chores?
    • Reality Check: Not Every Battle
    • The Solving Circle
    • Love, Belonging, and Compatibility
    • Compatibility and Power
    • Survival, Security, and Compatibility
    • What Makes Couples Compatible?
    • Marriage: What’s Working?
    • Marriage: What is “More Effective” Control?
    • Marriage: The “Control” Question
    • More on Marriage
    • Five Big Marriage Questions
• Category: Satisfaction
  • Reality Check: To Make a Difference
  • Reality Check: What makes a great day?
  • Reality Check: What makes a difference?
  • Reality Check: Your Happiness and Other People’s Stuff
  • Reality Check: Lean for Life
  • Reality Check: Comparison in Action
  • Reality Check: When Wants Collide
  • Reality Check: The Value of Purpose
• Category: Teaching
  • Reality Check: Are you being bored?
• Category: Win-Win
  • What would make it possible?
  • Communication: What’s winning look like?
  • The Quality Worlds of a Happy Relationship
• Category: Workplace
  • Reality Check: Opinions at Work
  • Reality Check: Suggestions for the Workplace Feud
  • Reality Check: The Workplace Feud
  • Reality Check: Relationships and the Bottom Line
  • Reality Check: If you can’t get out of work….
  • Reality Check: Improving the Workplace from Within
  • Reality Check: Can you change your workplace reality?
  • Reality Check: Just doing my job…
  • Reality Check: Joe’s New Job
  • Reality Check: The Reluctant Leader
  • Reality Check: Quality for Life
  • Reality Check: Engagement as an Employability Skill
  • Reality Check: Willingness to Learn as an Employability Skill
  • Reality Check: Overcoming Shyness is an Employability Skill
  • Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along… But How?
  • Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along
  • Reality Check: Power and Embarrassment
  • Reality Check: Evaluation time
  • Reality Check: Working with different people
  • Reality Check: Creating a Positive Feedback Loop
  • Reality Check: Before Putting Mouth in Gear…
  • Reality Check: Safety at Work
  • Reality Check: You want what at work?
  • Reality Check: Rise or Sink?
  • Reality Check: What’s wanted in workplaces? (cont’d)
  • Reality Check: What’s wanted in workplaces?
  • Reality Check: Turning Work from Torment to Tolerable
  • Learning at Work
  • Everybody’s still picking on Johnny
  • Everybody picks on Johnny, part 2
  • Everybody Picks on Johnny
  • The Lead Management Agenda
  • Work: What’s a leader to do?
  • Work: What’s a worker to do?
  • Work: She’s out to get me
  • Work: He’s out to get me
  • Work: Three Suggestions for Keeping One’s Dignity
  • Work: Keeping One’s Dignity
  • Work: It Wasn’t My Fault… Conclusion
  • Work: It Wasn’t My Fault…Part 2
  • Work: It Wasn’t My Fault…
  • It works at work
  • Choosing to satisfy your needs

Powered by "WP Sitemap Page"