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Reality Check: The Five Second Rule

Do you know the five second rule? Maybe it’s the ten second rule. Either way, it’s the rule/myth that when a piece of food hits the floor, it’s still edible if it’s picked up right away. You know, of course, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Upsides and Downsides of Filters

Even inanimate objects are not immune to the changes of time. My reminder of that came recently when I tried to listen to an old speech recorded on VHS tape. Magnetic tapes deteriorate even when not used. Those words from … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Value of Work

Work and workplaces have changed over the past weeks. Some changes are dramatic, with workplaces completely shut down. Other workplaces carry on with relatively minor changes. Whether it’s your work that’s affected, or it’s your experience as a consumer, I’m … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Critical Eye

Many people are now spending more time at home. While that may be with people you love and care about, it may also be in close quarters and for some, it must be quite a change. There’s an interesting difference … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Working with Unpredictable People

While we can never predict exactly what will happen, many situations are quite predictable. It’s painful to touch the hot stove. If I don’t believe it, it only takes one try to learn a lesson I won’t soon forget. Likewise, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Take It to Heart? Or Not?

Whenever people need to interact with each other, there are opportunities for conflict. Conflict shows up among friends, within families, in community discussions and at workplaces. That’s no surprise. After all, one reason for conflict is because people don’t agree … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Reassessing Wants

Dr. Robert Wubbolding suggests a deceptively simple four-part structure derived from the practice of Reality Therapy. He calls it WDEP: Want, Do, (self)Evaluate, and Plan. The practice starts with, “What do you want?” Wants can be surprisingly confusing and the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What we say; What they hear

Have you ever walked away from a conversation shaking your head and wondering, “What was that all about?” Do you ever perceive that people you talk to are overly sensitive, resentful, or easily offended? Having a conversation that’s a true … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Mind Reader

Would you like to read minds? When someone looks you in the eye and tells you a tale, do you wonder, “What are they really thinking?” On the one hand, the ability to read minds sounds great. You’d never be … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Suggestions for the Workplace Feud

Last post, I described a workplace feud between Millie and Billy that’s gotten out of hand. What to do? Dr. Glasser suggested that the need for power is a basic human need. Because “power” is such a charged word, I … Continue reading

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