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Reality Check: Future Prospects

We can only act in the present day. I’m sure that this isn’t news to you! While we can’t act in the past nor can we act in the future, there’s an interesting difference between the two. The past is … Continue reading

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Reality Check: One Good Thing

“Structured reality therapy” is an approach that Dr. Wm. Glasser developed and used for marriage counselling. Like some other aspects of Choice Theory, the process sounds almost simplistic; essentially it begins by having both people answer five straightforward questions. Simplicity, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Five Questions Meet a Conflict

Some people take a spontaneous seat-of-the-pants approach to life, while others find structure more satisfying. Personally, I find structure helpful: shopping lists, appointment calendars, journal reminders. Tools of this sort may not work perfectly, but they can help us develop … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can We Resolve This Dispute?

Some of us like to solve problems. In fact, we might even identify ourselves as problem-solvers, based on successful problem solving incidents in our past! It’s satisfying to be able to assess a situation, interact with the involved parties, and … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring

Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Curious Quest

Everyone has an opinion about something. And some people seem to have opinions about everything! While this can make for lively conversation, differences in opinion can also result in hard feelings. Our lives go a little more smoothly when we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Different People; Different Pictures

Does everybody want basically the same thing? The idea is appealing, but is it true? We can certainly find groups of people who do want essentially the same things. When we choose friends, it’s likely that they are people who … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Those Pictures in our Heads

Have you noticed that people sometimes make choices that don’t make sense? Maybe you’ve even done this yourself! Curious, isn’t it? We know better. Why, oh why? If you’ve been reading these columns, then you know that I have a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Expectations and Negotiations

During a New Year’s decluttering spree, I stacked objects to redirect to new homes in a pile that was way too high. What happened? It fell over. You and I both knew that would happen. The logical question: “If you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is It Infectious?

Post-pandemic, we’re all aware of how easy it can be to catch something nasty. Thus, we take measures to prevent getting infected. We might avoid situations where we could be exposed to disease or we might try to build up … Continue reading

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