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Reality Check: An Inconvenient Truth About Caring

Tradeoffs. In many situations, we can’t get exactly what we want; we have to choose among less-than-ideal options. For example, let’s choose where to live. Town or country? One is convenient with easy access to services, but that is traded … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Curious Quest

Everyone has an opinion about something. And some people seem to have opinions about everything! While this can make for lively conversation, differences in opinion can also result in hard feelings. Our lives go a little more smoothly when we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Different People; Different Pictures

Does everybody want basically the same thing? The idea is appealing, but is it true? We can certainly find groups of people who do want essentially the same things. When we choose friends, it’s likely that they are people who … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Those Pictures in our Heads

Have you noticed that people sometimes make choices that don’t make sense? Maybe you’ve even done this yourself! Curious, isn’t it? We know better. Why, oh why? If you’ve been reading these columns, then you know that I have a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Expectations and Negotiations

During a New Year’s decluttering spree, I stacked objects to redirect to new homes in a pile that was way too high. What happened? It fell over. You and I both knew that would happen. The logical question: “If you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is It Infectious?

Post-pandemic, we’re all aware of how easy it can be to catch something nasty. Thus, we take measures to prevent getting infected. We might avoid situations where we could be exposed to disease or we might try to build up … Continue reading

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Reality Check: It Takes Two to Insult

They say that it takes two to tango, but that’s not all! Lots of activities depend on cooperation, and it’s important to cooperate in many situations. Is cooperation always the right thing? Of course not. When it’s an evil, destructive, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Fishing for Choices

A story about halibut fishing in Alaska recently caught my attention. Now, I’m not generally interested in halibut fishing, and although Alaska is undoubtedly lovely, it doesn’t hold any special appeal for me. What intrigued me was that the story … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Trust and Betrayal

“What can you do when you believe that your trust has been betrayed?” That question was posed to me recently, and even if you’ve never had a “betrayal experience,” it could still be worthwhile to put some thought into it. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Speak or To Hold Your Peace

Do you ever have moments in conversation when you wonder, “Should I speak up? Or is it better to bite my tongue?” In some cases, it can seem like we don’t even have a choice. Let’s say someone has said … Continue reading

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