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Reality Check: Expectations and the Pictures We Carry
Whenever two or more people get together and talk, we have an opportunity to share joy, to create understanding, and to deepen relationships. Getting together can be such fun! Getting together also creates an opportunity for conflict, and there’s plenty … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged conflict, examining wants, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: When We Don’t See Eye to Eye
A snippet of overheard conversation reminded me of a common source of relationship conflicts. It’s the idea that the people close to you should share your opinions. In this case, a young woman we’ll call Liz was venting her frustration … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged conflict, criticism, examining wants, perception
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Reality Check: When “Don’t” Works
“Don’t” sounds like such a negative word, doesn’t it? Maybe that’s because it’s often used in commands, like “Don’t do that!” or “Don’t call me; I’ll call you.” It’s a word that shows up a lot when we try to … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, conflict, perception
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Reality Check: How Do You Know You’ve Understood?
Do you ever feel misunderstood? I’ll hazard a guess that the answer is “yes.” If that’s true, then it’s also likely that other people feel misunderstood, too. Why? One answer is that some communication methods are more effective than others. … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: Helpful and Unhelpful Conversations
People talk. We often take it for granted, but the fact that we are able to communicate really is one of the delights of being human. It enables us to learn, create, innovate, and express emotion. Our communication is not … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, examining wants, offering information
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Reality Check: Instead of Head-Banging…
You may have heard that “customer service ain’t what it used to be.” This may be true. While I’m not convinced that poor service is universal, I’ve certainly heard anecdotes that indicate appalling lack of care. It’s enough to make … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, frustration, offering information
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Reality Check: I Wonder…
Are you dealing with a challenging problem now? Do you see one coming up in the future? Or maybe you’ve recently resolved a problem. Problems are pretty common, so it’s not unusual to be in one of those boats at … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged anxiety, conflict, improving relationships
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Reality Check: When We Make A Change
The scenario outlined in my recent column on people-pleasing prompted comments from readers who agree—in that situation, it would be helpful if the people-pleaser made some changes. When we’re in a relationship where one person attempts to control the other, … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, confidence, conflict, examining wants
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Reality Check: When We Lose Power
Dr. Wm. Glasser included power in his list of five basic human needs. As the word “power” can be interpreted in different ways, first let’s consider what power might mean here. I don’t know how you spend your vacation, but … Continue reading
Posted in Power
Tagged basic needs, conflict, motivation, power
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