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Reality Check: Will You Ever Grow, Moso?
In his book, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together,” Dr. Bob Wubbolding tells a little story about the Moso bamboo. According to Dr. Bob, it can take years of persistent care and watering of seeds before … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged basic needs, confidence, making choices, persistence
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Reality Check: The Present Day
We have so many opportunities to find reasons to be upset, anxious, angry, or have other difficult feelings. Your upsets might come from your personal life, from the behaviour of people close to you, such as family, community, or workplace. … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, confidence, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Name That Emotion
What emotion are you feeling right now? Take a moment; think about it. Is it curiosity? Joy? Sadness? Enthusiasm? Frustration? Loneliness? Optimism? It’s easy to develop a belief that our emotions control us and that we don’t have much say … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged anxiety, confidence, feelings, perception
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Reality Check: When We Make A Change
The scenario outlined in my recent column on people-pleasing prompted comments from readers who agree—in that situation, it would be helpful if the people-pleaser made some changes. When we’re in a relationship where one person attempts to control the other, … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, confidence, conflict, examining wants
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Reality Check: The Paths We Select Through Our Choices
One of the benefits of writing is that people sometimes tell me their stories. I appreciate getting them, especially stories about choices. Recently, a young woman I’ll call Rebecca emailed me. We are acquainted, so the contact wasn’t completely unexpected. … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing actions, choosing influences, confidence, examining wants, motivation
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Reality Check: So What If I’m Rejected?
Self-evaluation in choice theory encourages us to honestly ask, “Is what I’m doing working well for me?” If things are going well, we would likely choose to continue. If they’re not, we might make a change. Does that seem like … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, choosing actions, choosing thoughts, confidence, perception
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Reality Check: Finding the Courage to Compliment
Do you feel weird when giving someone a compliment? If so, you’re not alone. I know this because Dan Pink, best-selling motivational author, created a short video on “How to compliment people without feeling like a weasel.” This sounds a … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing thoughts, confidence, encouragement, gratitude, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Encouragement of Youth
The recent passing of Prince Philip reminded me about the Duke of Edinburgh award, and that it’s important to encourage youth in positive directions. Encouragement—or a lack of encouragement—can make a significant difference for us, whether we are youthful or … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged confidence, encouragement, examining wants, happiness, persistence, responsibility
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Reality Check: Why Not Ask?
“I’m not going to bother asking because I know what I’ll hear.” Have you ever held back from making a request using that reasoning? For example, “I won’t bother to ask for a refund because I know it will be … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, confidence, perception
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Reality Check: Resources and Resourcefulness
Picture yourself stranded on a desert island (or an island off Nova Scotia.) As you are “stranded,” it’s implied that you didn’t intend to be in this situation and it’s definitely not what you want. Now what do you do? … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, confidence, helpful, responsibility
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