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Reality Check: The Things People Say
Everybody’s heard about Treena’s embarrassing situation. At least, that’s her perception. Her boss, neighbours, relatives, friends, and acquaintances know that she did something bad and was caught. It was even in the paper, ensuring that every single person knows it. … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged anxiety, confidence, criticism, guilt, perception, worry
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Reality Check: The Joy of Ownership
The other day, while I was picking up trash by the roadside, I pondered the things that one tends to ponder while picking up trash by the roadside. For example, I pondered, “Why would anyone throw their trash on the … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged confidence, happiness, helpful, perception
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Reality Check: The Critic
Do you detect that there’s a lot of criticism in your life? If so, how does it feel to be criticized? Are you grateful to have the errors of your ways pointed out to you? Or not so much? When … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged "should", choosing influences, confidence, criticism
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Reality Check: Influencers, Helpers, and Heroes
We may never know the effect of extending a small kindness. In fact, we could perform a genuinely heroic act and never learn the result. We may not even know whether anyone noticed. Being helpful and kind is more satisfying … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged choosing actions, confidence, encouragement, gratitude
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Reality Check: Knowing who your friends are
How do you know who your friends are? If you’re a well-seasoned adult, your response may be quite different from that of someone younger. Experience does bring wisdom. If you pay attention to it, that is. I know that I’m … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing influences, confidence, improving relationships, power
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Reality Check: What’s your predisposition?
“Sally said my hair looked nice today. Can you believe that!” Did Sally pay me a compliment? Or was that a subtle insult, implying that she noticed an improvement over those many non-nice hair days? Was Sally being sarcastic? Or … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, confidence, filters, perception
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Reality Check: When you doubt yourself
While unjustified confidence can be perceived as arrogance, justifiable confidence is a positive quality. Self-doubt, for any of us, can result in a lack of enjoyment of our lives. An athlete who loses confidence can lose their enjoyment of the … Continue reading
Posted in Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology
Tagged anxiety, confidence, total behaviour, worry
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Reality Check: The Joy of Mastery
In a talk on mastery, Sal Khan discusses the difficulty inherent in an educational process that pushes people to learn new material before they’ve mastered fundamentals. Mastery of learning is an appropriate topic for Khan. He’s the founder of khanacademy.org, … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged confidence, frustration, fun, learning, perception
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Reality Check: Another Route to Self-Esteem
Last posting, I recounted Brady’s story. Brady’s high self-esteem as a youngster came crashing down in adulthood when he encountered a boss who didn’t interpret awesomeness as just showing up. The profuse praise Brady was accustomed to receiving for minimal … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, confidence, motivation, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Routes to Self-Esteem
Is self-esteem a double-edged sword? Too little self-esteem? You can find yourself living an unsatisfying life with little confidence. You may treat yourself as if you have low value or worth. Others may take your behaviour as a cue, and … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged confidence, offering information, perception, work
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