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Reality Check: The Benefit of Mistakes

Posted on April 11, 2021 by RealityCheck

“Oops! I made a mistake.” Is there anyone out there who genuinely believes that they’ve never made a mistake? If that’s you, then I guess you can stop reading now. This column is for the rest of us—the mere mortals. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Year in Perspective

Posted on December 20, 2020 by RealityCheck

In “Choice Theory,” Dr. Glasser tells the story of a mother who is travelling with her infant. The baby screams through the whole three-hour flight. Mom tries everything she can think of; nothing helps. You can probably understand why the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Tension Between Safety and Freedom

Posted on December 6, 2020 by RealityCheck

People do the strangest things, don’t they? Sometimes you shake your head in disbelief. Yet for any of us, I suspect that there are times when an observer would think our own actions quite irrational. An observer can only see … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Five Second Rule

Posted on October 25, 2020 by RealityCheck

Do you know the five second rule? Maybe it’s the ten second rule. Either way, it’s the rule/myth that when a piece of food hits the floor, it’s still edible if it’s picked up right away. You know, of course, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Value of Work

Posted on May 17, 2020 by RealityCheck

Work and workplaces have changed over the past weeks. Some changes are dramatic, with workplaces completely shut down. Other workplaces carry on with relatively minor changes. Whether it’s your work that’s affected, or it’s your experience as a consumer, I’m … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Company We Keep

Posted on March 14, 2020 by RealityCheck

Depending on who you talk to, the world is either on the brink of destruction or it’s approaching a golden age of peace and prosperity. Yes, both perceptions exist. You might not have realized that, because we seem to hear … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Urge to Justify

Posted on December 1, 2019 by RealityCheck

Most of us have been on the receiving end of criticism at some point. If that’s you, then you may also be familiar with the urge to respond by justifying your actions. Criticism sometimes comes from the people closest to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Workplace Feud

Posted on August 25, 2019 by RealityCheck

Do you remember the old western movies that featured families fighting each other for generations? The original dispute is long forgotten, but the hatred continues. Feuds aren’t confined to families, and one place where they are particularly unhelpful is in … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Both Sides True

Posted on May 5, 2019 by RealityCheck

When we have a disagreement, whether with an individual or a whole group of people, it’s common to think uncharitable thoughts about those on the other side. After all, it goes without saying that we are correct on the issue. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Caution! Mindreading While Listening

Posted on March 10, 2019 by RealityCheck

When doing an important task, it works best if you concentrate fully on that one task while you are doing it. For example, you and I both know better than to text while driving. Driving is an important task, and … Continue reading →

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