Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: Expanding Happiness

Picture an image of everything that brings happiness to you. All the people, the places, the things, even the values and ideas; everything that brings you joy. Is your picture huge? Does it contain a wide selection of satisfying things? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Alliances

The term ‘alliance’ is often used to refer to relationships among countries. However, it can also be a useful descriptor for relationships among people, and could even open up a new perspective for some. Dr. Glasser and others put a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Get Back On Course

When events in our lives go awry, we may develop the perception that life is just one bad thing after another. It’s overwhelming. Some time ago, I asked, “What do you do when events throw you off course?” The suggestions … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Will You Ever Grow, Moso?

In his book, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together,” Dr. Bob Wubbolding tells a little story about the Moso bamboo. According to Dr. Bob, it can take years of persistent care and watering of seeds before … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What I Didn’t Know Then

Choice Theory is focused on the present day. Why? “All you have any control over is what you do right now” is how Dr. Glasser puts it in “Choice Theory.” We can’t change the past, but many of us with … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When You’re Thrown Off Course

In our lives, we may have blissful times. Those are the days when everything is going smoothly. Relationships with friends and family are warm and satisfying, work or purpose is well in hand and headed in the direction that you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Perceptions and Reputations

One upside of living in this internet-connected world is that we have so much access to useful information. But there’s always a downside, isn’t there? Here’s one. While it’s easy to access information, it’s also easy to produce information. Websites, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Artificially Intelligent Relationships?

What if you could create your perfect wife, husband or friend? A buddy who responds in exactly the right way? You’d never hear a complaint. You’d never feel alone. You’d have a companion to make your life complete. Wouldn’t that … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is it an Annoyance or an Adventure?

Different people, as we know, prefer different things. Some people enjoy spontaneity; others view anything unplanned as chaos and confusion. Dr. Glasser uses the term Quality World to refer to our collection of what we want the most. To use … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is it Time to Change the Filter?

Filters are useful. If we don’t have the right air filter, oil filter, or coffee filter, some tasks just can’t be done. We have other filters too; ones that we can’t see but that still affect our lives. Their effects … Continue reading

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