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Reality Check: What Does Freedom Mean To You?

“How do you want your life to be?” In these columns, I’ve chosen to use the structure of basic needs as outlined in Choice Theory to help us answer that question. We’ll start by taking a look at our basic … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Could Organizing Your Wants Change Your Life?

I have an important question for you and it’s only four words long: “What do you want?” Perhaps you can easily produce a detailed list of exactly what things you want, what people you want in your life, what values … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Those Difficult Thoughts and Feelings

When choosing a title for this column, I was torn about how to describe the thoughts and feelings I’m writing about. There are so many possibilities; we could call them negative, upsetting, or troublesome. I like “pesky” but it seems … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Positive Physical Activity

If you ever have the feeling that you need to “pull yourself together,” then it would be handy to have a procedure to follow, wouldn’t it? Dr. Bob Wubbolding wrote a set of directions for doing just that. He called … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What is a Positive Action?

If you decide to follow through with Dr. Bob Wubbolding’s steps in, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together,” then you may have already made some progress! First, you’ll have assessed your current reality. That is, you’ve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Make a Deliberate Decision

Last time, I referred to “accept your current reality” as the first step offered by Dr. Bob Wubbolding in, “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together.” We have to start somewhere, and current reality is the place, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Current Reality

Dr. Bob Wubbolding is the author of a short, delightful book called “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together.” It looks like a child’s book with its cartoon-like pictures, big print, short sentences. But looks can be … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Shifting Sands of Wants

What do you want? What do you really, really want? Some people don’t like to think about what they want. They believe that it’s selfish, or so unattainable that it’s depressing to think about it. Maybe we believe there is … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Little Encouragement; Big Results

We can get news from all over the world. Some good; some awful. Along with current events, we also get information about what others are doing. That news often includes their notable accomplishments and tremendous success. Like so much of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Does Worry Have an Upside?

Unpleasant emotions. Do you ever experience them? Sadness, anger, resentment… I suspect you can easily come up with a list of feelings you’d happily do without. Worry may be on your list. You might think of it as anxiety, concern, … Continue reading →

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