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Reality Check: Why Do We Do the Things We Do?

Why, oh why? Why do we do things that don’t seem to make sense? Even if you always act sensibly yourself, it’s still an interesting question. The answers could help you figure out the rest of us. Here’s one explanation, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Expectations and Negotiations

During a New Year’s decluttering spree, I stacked objects to redirect to new homes in a pile that was way too high. What happened? It fell over. You and I both knew that would happen. The logical question: “If you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: That Fresh New Year Fragrance

Have you ever bought one of those air fresheners called “new car smell”? For a few bucks, you can bask in the scent of rich leather. Or maybe it’s rich vinyl. Either way, you can experience a luxurious new car … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Present and the Presents

Presents are top of mind for many at this time of year. How I look at gift-giving and gift-receiving has changed over the years, and I suspect that it may have also changed for you. As we move along in … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Is It Infectious?

Post-pandemic, we’re all aware of how easy it can be to catch something nasty. Thus, we take measures to prevent getting infected. We might avoid situations where we could be exposed to disease or we might try to build up … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Sticking to the Plan

When I recently reviewed my to-do list, I was pleasantly surprised to see that I had accomplished more than I had realized! Perceptions are funny. Lots of factors contribute to how we perceive whether we are making progress. Brand new … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Expectations and the Pictures We Carry

Whenever two or more people get together and talk, we have an opportunity to share joy, to create understanding, and to deepen relationships. Getting together can be such fun! Getting together also creates an opportunity for conflict, and there’s plenty … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When We Don’t See Eye to Eye

A snippet of overheard conversation reminded me of a common source of relationship conflicts. It’s the idea that the people close to you should share your opinions. In this case, a young woman we’ll call Liz was venting her frustration … Continue reading

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Reality Check: I Never Looked at “No” That Way

If we make a habit of seeking out information, we may occasionally find something that prompts us to think, “Huh! I never looked at it that way.” This came to my mind recently when I read an article by James … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Our Perceptions

Would your life be different if you could control your emotions? You could decide, “I’m choosing to be happy, confident, optimistic!” Or, “I’m choosing to be angry, anxious, resentful.” Either way, with this power, you’d have control over how you … Continue reading

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