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Reality Check: What We Want and What We Control
One of the structured processes used in Reality Therapy is known as WDEP, where the W stands for Wants. That is, the first step in the process is—Figure out what you want! You’d think that would be simple, wouldn’t you? … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged examining wants, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Ups and Downs of People Pleasing
Jo is upset. She would like to please her friend Maggie but if she does, she’ll end up unhappy with herself. Maggie is insisting that Jo spend essentially all of her free time with her. We all know that no … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged "should", dissatisfaction, examining wants, making choices
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Reality Check: The Paths We Select Through Our Choices
One of the benefits of writing is that people sometimes tell me their stories. I appreciate getting them, especially stories about choices. Recently, a young woman I’ll call Rebecca emailed me. We are acquainted, so the contact wasn’t completely unexpected. … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing actions, choosing influences, confidence, examining wants, motivation
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Reality Check: The Need to be Free
Here in the “true north strong and free,” you might think that everybody understands freedom. According to Dr. Glasser’s choice theory, we all have some level of the need for freedom. We may all have the need, but there are … Continue reading
Posted in Freedom...
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, freedom, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Belonging Problem
The Choice Theory of Dr. Wm. Glasser suggests that we have five basic needs that motivate us to act. We may choose effective actions that create a satisfying life or we may choose ineffective actions that are counter-productive, even self-destructive. … Continue reading
Posted in Love & Belonging
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, happiness, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Our Most Basic Needs
Are there more incidents of unhappiness now than ever before? The pandemic and the changes that accompanied it can certainly give that impression. There are plenty of stories. Some—about celebrities or strangers—appear in the media. But you may also be … Continue reading
Posted in Needs
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, happiness, hope, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Acceptance of Reality as a Caring Habit
Some people’s lives seem naturally filled with good, close relationships while others have a difficult time getting along with anyone. I certainly don’t have an easy answer for why these disparities exist. We only have control over some things. Thus, … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing thoughts, conflict, examining wants, perception
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Reality Check: Encouragement as a Caring Habit
In a world where it can feel that we have little control over so much, it’s helpful to recognize what we can control—especially when it has a significant effect on our quality of life. The care and nurturing of relationships … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged encouragement, examining wants, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Make Something Good Happen
The transition from one year to the next often motivates us to make a change, preferably for the better. Maybe you want to set out on a new adventure or improve a relationship. Holidays often include opportunities to get together. … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Freedom
Tagged choosing actions, dissatisfaction, examining wants, making choices
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