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Reality Check: The Essence of Home
What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged dissatisfaction, examining wants, freedom, internal & external control, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Different wants for different folks
“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", basic needs, criticism, examining wants
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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Strategies for Choice
Previously, I discussed a theory popularized by Barry Schwartz in, “The Paradox of Choice” that there are two choice-making approaches. Some people are maximizers; intent on making the absolute best choices they possibly can. Others are satisficers, who stop looking … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged "should", examining wants, making choices, worry
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Reality Check: What you see is what you get
WYSIWYG, pronounced “whizzywig,” means, “What you see is what you get.” I know the phrase from the olden days of computers—back when it was a big deal to have the display on the screen actually reflect what was printed. Computer … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", criticism, examining wants, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Structure for a Satisfying Life
The upside of dissatisfaction is that it can be a useful motivator to drive improvement. That’s grasping at straws to find a positive spin, isn’t it? Seriously though, if we had no dissatisfaction, why would we ever improve? One area … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, need satisfaction, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: When Fairness Holds Us Back
The mother-daughter conflict story told in Choice Theory by Dr. Glasser that I’ve been referring to has one more interesting dimension that some of us might find troubling. Briefly, the story goes like this: Mom works all day and is … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged "should", examining wants, fairness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Love, Clarified and Committed
Recently I was gifted with a book entitled, “What is this thing called Love?” Written by Dr. Glasser and his wife Carleen, the book has a clear purpose. It’s for women who have been told, “I love you,” but who … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, making choices, need satisfaction
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