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If the cat would only change
Making life choices and learning how to get along can be hard work. Let’s try a light-hearted approach for a change. After all, according to reality therapy, everyone has a basic need for fun! If you’re familiar with households that … Continue reading
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Looking for Belonging
One self-defense strategy against cyber bullying, as I’d suggested in an earlier column, is to learn Choice Theory. That can help someone who feels attacked realize that other people don’t “make” us do things, and therefore choose more effective behaviours. … Continue reading
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Tagged improving relationships, internal & external control, need satisfaction
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“Made” You Look!
The recent news of cyber bullying is a reminder of how “interesting” teenage life can be. While teasing, tormenting, and harassing behaviours have long existed; the apparent anonymity of the Internet emboldens some
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What’s an Hour?
Having Reality Therapy as my area of interest, it’s natural that people tell me their troubles. And there are plenty of troubles to hear, ranging from the heart-wrenching to the mind-boggling. If I’m asked for advice, I usually respond by
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Tagged making choices, perception, unhappiness
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Matchmaking Disconnections
Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t. … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, need satisfaction, win-win
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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading
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Work: What’s a leader to do?
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes. From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake.
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Work: What’s a worker to do?
When you’re a worker bee, stuck in an unsatisfying work situation, it’s easy to find someone to blame. Your co-workers, manager, even the “big boss:” if only “they” knew what they were doing, everything would be better. The Reality Therapy … Continue reading
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Work: She’s out to get me
When Winnie talks about work, as she did in the last column, you can tell that her perception is that she has a problem team. She feels like she’s trying to lead a bunch of blamers, complainers, plus one aggressive … Continue reading
Work: He’s out to get me
While many aspects of our lives offer the potential for conflict and misunderstanding, conflicts at work can be especially troublesome. Work has an impact on our basic needs, particularly power (the need to accomplish) and survival (the need to be … Continue reading