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What’s an Hour?
Having Reality Therapy as my area of interest, it’s natural that people tell me their troubles. And there are plenty of troubles to hear, ranging from the heart-wrenching to the mind-boggling. If I’m asked for advice, I usually respond by
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged making choices, perception, unhappiness
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Matchmaking Disconnections
Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t. … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged examining wants, need satisfaction, win-win
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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, making choices, win-win
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Work: What’s a leader to do?
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes. From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake.
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Tagged conflict, examining wants, win-win
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Work: What’s a worker to do?
When you’re a worker bee, stuck in an unsatisfying work situation, it’s easy to find someone to blame. Your co-workers, manager, even the “big boss:” if only “they” knew what they were doing, everything would be better. The Reality Therapy … Continue reading
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Tagged blame, criticism, examining wants, win-win
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Work: She’s out to get me
When Winnie talks about work, as she did in the last column, you can tell that her perception is that she has a problem team. She feels like she’s trying to lead a bunch of blamers, complainers, plus one aggressive … Continue reading
Work: He’s out to get me
While many aspects of our lives offer the potential for conflict and misunderstanding, conflicts at work can be especially troublesome. Work has an impact on our basic needs, particularly power (the need to accomplish) and survival (the need to be … Continue reading
Changing Those Discouraging Thoughts
Last column, I suggested some actions to help move away from “discouraging,” as changing what we do is the most effective route to changing what we feel. The next most effective way to change a feeling is to change what … Continue reading
Posted in Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology
Tagged discouragement, internal & external control, making choices
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Acting on “Discouraging”
Discouraging: It’s a bleak word. Usually, the word “discouraging” refers to one person attempting to influence another by raising objections, even trying to take away hope or confidence. In the phrase, “Harry is discouraging” we expect an object. Who is … Continue reading
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Tagged discouragement, making choices, total behaviour
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On Discouragement
Do you ever get discouraged? When life isn’t going well and it seems like the whole world is conspiring against you, you can get that down-in-the-dumps feeling. Saying, “I’m discouraged,” can practically make your head droop and your shoulders sag; … Continue reading
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