Category Archives: Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology

Reality Check: “Keys” to Self-Evaluation

Elise has the unfortunate habit of misplacing her keys. Over the years, she has been late for important meetings, she’s held up family outings, and she’s wasted countless hours searching. Her key-losing behaviour even contributed to missing a chance for … Continue reading

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Changing Those Discouraging Thoughts

Last column, I suggested some actions to help move away from “discouraging,” as changing what we do is the most effective route to changing what we feel. The next most effective way to change a feeling is to change what … Continue reading

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Acting on “Discouraging”

Discouraging: It’s a bleak word. Usually, the word “discouraging” refers to one person attempting to influence another by raising objections, even trying to take away hope or confidence. In the phrase, “Harry is discouraging” we expect an object. Who is … Continue reading

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On Discouragement

Do you ever get discouraged? When life isn’t going well and it seems like the whole world is conspiring against you, you can get that down-in-the-dumps feeling. Saying, “I’m discouraged,” can practically make your head droop and your shoulders sag; … Continue reading

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Packing the Behavioural Suitcase

Let’s imagine that all the behaviours we use are available in our “behavioural suitcases.” How might we pack that suitcase with behaviours that will work most effectively for us?

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Our Behavioural Suitcase

When we’re faced with a new situation, how do we choose what to do?  A metaphor used in Reality Therapy to help illustrate how we choose is a “suitcase of behaviours”. That is, pretend that all the behaviours that you … Continue reading

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Do something differently with Total Behaviour

If you want something different than what you have, you’ll need to do something differently than what you’ve been doing. It’s not a radical idea, but have you noticed that it’s easier said than done?

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