Tag Archives: fairness

Reality Check: Esteem Essentials

Posted on December 8, 2013 by RealityCheck

Can you raise someone’s self-esteem? Perhaps more to the point, can you (or anyone) lower someone’s self-esteem? The choice theory view is that we can’t make anyone (other than ourselves) happy, sad, angry, or anything else; each of us does … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Turn Around

Posted on November 3, 2013 by RealityCheck

Relationships have differences. If those differences aren’t handled well, they can lead to unfortunate consequences: marriage breakup, financial hardship, traumatized children. Differences at work can lead to people quitting or being fired, to stress, anxiety, lost productivity, and lost opportunities. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What’s fair in love and chores?

Posted on October 14, 2012 by RealityCheck

A recent study by a Norwegian researcher generated headlines with its conclusion that couples who share housework equally are more likely to divorce than couples where women do most of the household chores. Almost simultaneously, a British study concluded that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Fairest of Them All

Posted on March 16, 2012 by RealityCheck

No, this column isn’t about Snow White; it’s about fairness. Of course, Snow White’s beauty did offer her an unfair advantage over the wicked queen. And, the wicked queen had the unfair advantage of power. Fairness is complicated, isn’t it? … Continue reading →

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Everybody’s still picking on Johnny

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

Firmly fixed in Johnny’s mind is the idea that life is unfair. More specifically, life is unfair to him. Whether it’s at work, with his parents, his teachers, even with his friends, Johnny often feels as if he is under … Continue reading →

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Everybody picks on Johnny, part 2

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

Johnny feels picked on. He is sure that he is treated unfairly compared to others. Even worse, he is convinced that it’s the story of his entire life. When I introduced Johnny in an earlier column, I suggested that he … Continue reading →

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Everybody Picks on Johnny

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

“I’d do anything for my child.” If you’re a mom or dad, and even if you aren’t, you can understand that sentiment. You already know that some children, and even some adults, seem to be “picked on” more than others. … Continue reading →

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