Tag Archives: making choices

Reality Check: “Keys” to Self-Evaluation

Posted on April 20, 2012 by RealityCheck

Elise has the unfortunate habit of misplacing her keys. Over the years, she has been late for important meetings, she’s held up family outings, and she’s wasted countless hours searching. Her key-losing behaviour even contributed to missing a chance for … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Resilient Children; Resilient Adults

Posted on April 6, 2012 by RealityCheck

When things are going well in our lives, it’s easy to feel satisfied, to view ourselves as being effective, and to build good relationships with people. However, at some point, every one of us will experience a setback, a disappointment, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Recognizing the Freedom to Choose

Posted on March 4, 2012 by RealityCheck

Once upon a time, Emma and William had a great relationship. Then, Emma decided she wanted to marry William, but William was reluctant to comply. Does the need for  freedom have an impact here? Emma doesn’t think she’s seeking freedom; … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choice and Personal Freedom

Posted on February 24, 2012 by RealityCheck

The theory underlying Reality Therapy is outlined in the book, “Choice Theory,” with the subtitle, “A new psychology of personal freedom.”  What does choice theory have to do with personal freedom? Dr. Glasser refers to the need for freedom as … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”

Posted on February 16, 2012 by RealityCheck

Self-help programs often promote the benefits of gratitude. Especially during those times when you are feeling particularly ungrateful, thinking and saying “thank you” can be really helpful. Let’s say you wake up feeling grumpy. Sometimes it happens! There may be … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: An Unworkable Conflict

Posted on January 26, 2012 by RealityCheck

Opportunities for conflict abound. That’s reality. Whether those conflicts grow into overwhelming difficulties or fade into minor irritations can depend largely on the choices we make. That’s reality therapy. What behaviours are helpful when we’re faced with a conflict?

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Reality Check: If Romeo and Juliet knew Choice Theory…

Posted on January 22, 2012 by RealityCheck

Great romances can make for great drama, and the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet pretty much takes the cake for drama, complexity, and unfortunate outcome. Drama occurs in present-day romances too,

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Self evaluate your behavioural choices

Posted on November 11, 2011 by RealityCheck

How do you react when you are faced with a challenge? All of us have problems; however, different people choose different responses. Maynard’s usual approach, described in the last column, is to withdraw from people and concentrate on his problem. … Continue reading →

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What makes a choice effective?

Posted on November 5, 2011 by RealityCheck

Wouldn’t it be great if we could always choose the most effective behaviour for every situation? Wouldn’t that make our lives better and more satisfying? Some people do lead more satisfying lives than others. And while fate or luck may … Continue reading →

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Is it Nagging? Or Informing?

Posted on October 28, 2011 by RealityCheck

“Honey, would you take out the trash?”  “Honey, please take out the trash.”  “Honey, Why do I have to keep telling you? The trash! The trash!” 

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