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Reality Check: Do You Feel Appreciated?
Knowing that we are genuinely appreciated is satisfying. From a choice theory perspective, we might say that appreciation satisfies our need for power, recognition, esteem. Regardless of how we analyze it, appreciation feels good. I sincerely hope that you have … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged "should", choosing thoughts, discouragement, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Finding the Good Thing
Humans seem to be wired to easily recognize bad things—danger, fear, hostility—and skip over good things. I’m sure there’s a perfectly sensible survival-related reason for that. However, if the lens we look through shows us only negatives, it makes for … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, happiness, perception, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Connecting with others
Have you noticed changes in your relationships over these past few weeks? With the requirements and warnings to stay away from people—to literally isolate ourselves—we’re no longer getting together for in-person gatherings. Perhaps you’re accustomed to dropping in for a … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged happiness, loneliness, need satisfaction, unhappiness
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Reality Check: The Dull of Winter
Winter. The dull days, grey clouds, rain, drizzle, fog, and yes, even snow, can be a hard time of year. It’s as if the sun takes a vacation (probably gone south.) For some folks, those dull days stir up dull, … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, perception, unhappiness
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Reality Check: There will always be an Irma
Are there people in your life who bug you? Treat you badly? Is this the story of your life? Sweet little Mary was picked on throughout her first year of school. Her nemesis was Irma, a big girl in a … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, internal & external control, making choices, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Blue Day Defenses
Ever had a blue day? No? You can skip this column, then. However, if “blue day” is sadly recognizable for you, read on. Our actions affect our feelings, so if you are feeling down and you don’t like that feeling, … Continue reading
Posted in How it is sometimes
Tagged choosing actions, comparing with others, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Do you want to keep the hurt alive?
Have you ever been hurt? Probably so. I think that it’s the rare person who makes it through life without feeling that someone has done them wrong at some point. This series of columns is intended to provide suggestions to … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, dissatisfaction, happiness, making choices, unhappiness
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Reality Check: A Step in the “Take Charge” Direction
The word “crisis” conveys a sense of urgency and it’s sometimes associated with the mental health system, accompanied by commentary that there aren’t enough resources and things are getting worse. Perhaps that’s true; perhaps it’s not. Allocation of resources will … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Freedom
Tagged improving relationships, offering information, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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Reality Check: If Only I Were…
It’s easy to find faults in others if one is inclined to do so. If you choose a mindset that compares others to your own internal standard of “how people should be,” you’ll readily see how they fall short. If … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, perception, unhappiness
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