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Wherever you go, there you are
We all need others to some degree. In reality therapy, that’s referred to as the need for love and belonging. Our lives are more satisfying when we can spend time with people we care about. However, there are benefits to … Continue reading
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The Unspoken Bargain
Have you ever entered into a bargain without realizing it? Alice did, and now she’s getting a daily dose of frustration from an arrangement she thought would be to her benefit. Here’s her story.
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Tagged examining wants, internal & external control, making choices
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Are you guilt-ing?
A benefit of applying choice theory/reality therapy in your life is that you can gain personal freedom—the freedom that comes with understanding what you can and cannot control. In previous columns, we’ve looked at situations where people attempt to coerce … Continue reading
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Guilty? Or Not Guilty?
Internal motivation is a foundation of choice theory/reality therapy. The idea is that our actions—the behaviours we choose—aren’t forced on us, but are the result of choices made in our own brains. Because reality therapy views behaviour as not only … Continue reading
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Tame Choice Overload with Direction
A world filled with possibilities—that’s a wonderfully freedom-filled way to look at the future. For Marci, however, determined to make one perfect career choice, all those possibilities seem more confusing than delightful. Added to her confusion is a feeling of … Continue reading
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Choice Overload?
Do you ever feel that there are too many choices? From the big decisions (where to live? whom to trust?) to the tiny ones (which laundry detergent?) we’re surrounded by options. Choosing among them can be tiring work. From one … Continue reading
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If the cat would only change
Making life choices and learning how to get along can be hard work. Let’s try a light-hearted approach for a change. After all, according to reality therapy, everyone has a basic need for fun! If you’re familiar with households that … Continue reading
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What’s an Hour?
Having Reality Therapy as my area of interest, it’s natural that people tell me their troubles. And there are plenty of troubles to hear, ranging from the heart-wrenching to the mind-boggling. If I’m asked for advice, I usually respond by
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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading
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Changing Those Discouraging Thoughts
Last column, I suggested some actions to help move away from “discouraging,” as changing what we do is the most effective route to changing what we feel. The next most effective way to change a feeling is to change what … Continue reading
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