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Acting on “Discouraging”
Discouraging: It’s a bleak word. Usually, the word “discouraging” refers to one person attempting to influence another by raising objections, even trying to take away hope or confidence. In the phrase, “Harry is discouraging” we expect an object. Who is … Continue reading
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On Discouragement
Do you ever get discouraged? When life isn’t going well and it seems like the whole world is conspiring against you, you can get that down-in-the-dumps feeling. Saying, “I’m discouraged,” can practically make your head droop and your shoulders sag; … Continue reading
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Work: Three Suggestions for Keeping One’s Dignity
In an earlier column, I introduced a retail service worker who had expressed her frustrations with customers, managers, and the public in an open letter to her community. The worker’s perception, in her own words, was “trying to keep one’s … Continue reading
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Tagged conflict, making choices, perception
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A Need-Satisfying New Year
In their holiday message to the reality therapy community, Dr. William and Carleen Glasser sent a wish that we have “a need-satisfying, choice theory New Year filled with joy.” What would a need-satisfying, choice theory year look like for you?
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A New Year, A New Suggestion
The New Year is a time when many people think about doing things differently (more commonly known as making New Year’s resolutions!) The reality therapy emphasis on personal responsibility leads logically to the idea that
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Communication: You can’t make me talk
Liam is in a power struggle with his parents over his refusal to communicate. From Liam’s perspective, they interrogate him—questioning where he goes, whom he sees, what he does. It’s stifling, and his response up to now has been to … Continue reading
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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault… Conclusion
Henry sits tensely in the office of his department head, Aaron, waiting for him to finish his phone call. Henry knows he used bad judgment when he avoided reporting his accident, and he is afraid that
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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault…
Henry was ecstatic when he was finally hired. He’d had his eye on this company for a long time; now he’s eager and rarin’ to go. Henry’s plan is
Sam, Revisited
Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, … Continue reading
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The Choice Theory Attitude
Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy? In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions
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Tagged examining wants, freedom, making choices, win-win
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