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Improving the Present
Rayne has had an imperfect past. Who hasn’t? However, Rayne’s past life interferes with her present life, as she spends hours fretting over
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The Present
You’ve probably heard this: “Every day is a gift, that’s why we call it the present.” Cliché? Yes. However, in Reality Therapy, the present is the place to be.
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When the Answer Doesn’t Work for You
Whenever you ask, “What do you want?” there’s the risk that you won’t like what you hear. Young Sam asked his parents if they wanted him to stay home. His parents replied, “Don’t mind us, we’ll manage.” But what Sam … Continue reading
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The Frustration Signal
Each of us has a set of tried and true behaviours. Whether we are faced with a stressful situation or just going about our everyday activities, we tend to use behaviours that we’ve used before. We even use favourite self-talk … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, freedom, making choices, need satisfaction
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Packing the Behavioural Suitcase
Let’s imagine that all the behaviours we use are available in our “behavioural suitcases.” How might we pack that suitcase with behaviours that will work most effectively for us?
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Our Behavioural Suitcase
When we’re faced with a new situation, how do we choose what to do? A metaphor used in Reality Therapy to help illustrate how we choose is a “suitcase of behaviours”. That is, pretend that all the behaviours that you … Continue reading
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Driving Toward Connection
Friends matter! According to Choice Theory/Reality Therapy, developed by Dr. Wm Glasser, our connections with people are
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Marriage: What’s Working?
In his book, Choice Theory, A New Psychology of Personal Freedom, Dr. Glasser reflects on his forty years of psychiatric practice by saying, “It has become apparent to me that all unhappy people have the same problem:
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“Are you here because you want help for the marriage?” This first question in the structured reality therapy approach to marriage counseling
Beating that No-Choice Feeling
Do you ever feel forced into doing meaningless tasks? That you’ve been trapped into doing things that aren’t appreciated? It’s easy to feel dissatisfied when
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