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Looking for Belonging
One self-defense strategy against cyber bullying, as I’d suggested in an earlier column, is to learn Choice Theory. That can help someone who feels attacked realize that other people don’t “make” us do things, and therefore choose more effective behaviours. … Continue reading
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Tagged improving relationships, internal & external control, need satisfaction
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Matchmaking Disconnections
Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t. … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged examining wants, need satisfaction, win-win
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A Need-Satisfying New Year
In their holiday message to the reality therapy community, Dr. William and Carleen Glasser sent a wish that we have “a need-satisfying, choice theory New Year filled with joy.” What would a need-satisfying, choice theory year look like for you?
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Finding a Third Option for Conflict
Whether it’s a conflict within yourself or with someone else, often only two far-from-ideal options seem to exist. Let’s look again at Sam, who was about to leave home when his mom became ill. Sam is a responsible young man
Posted in Family
Tagged conflict, freedom, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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Conflicts in the Quality World
What does the word “conflict” mean to you? Is it disagreement with other people?
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The Frustration Signal
Each of us has a set of tried and true behaviours. Whether we are faced with a stressful situation or just going about our everyday activities, we tend to use behaviours that we’ve used before. We even use favourite self-talk … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, freedom, making choices, need satisfaction
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Packing the Behavioural Suitcase
Let’s imagine that all the behaviours we use are available in our “behavioural suitcases.” How might we pack that suitcase with behaviours that will work most effectively for us?
Posted in Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology
Tagged making choices, need satisfaction, total behaviour
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When Nobody Seems to Care
The world can be a cold and lonely place if you feel that nobody cares about you. The need for love and belonging is one of five basic needs identified by Dr. Wm. Glasser, the originator of Reality Therapy. It’s … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, making choices, need satisfaction, perception
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Choosing to satisfy your needs
We make choices all the time. Some decisions are important, with long-term consequences, such as, “Shall I tell my supervisor what I really think of her?” Others aren’t as critical, such as
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If you can’t always get what you want…
If you can’t always get what you want, can you at least get what you need? Does that question ever cross your mind? If you feel that you are not even getting what you need in your life, then the … Continue reading
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