Category Archives: Relationships

The Unspoken Bargain

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

Have you ever entered into a bargain without realizing it? Alice did, and now she’s getting a daily dose of frustration from an arrangement she thought would be to her benefit. Here’s her story. 

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The Friendship Agenda

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

Is there an agenda for friendship? The term “agenda” is so often used negatively (as in “hidden agenda”) that the idea of a friendship agenda might seem cold or even devious. An agenda, though, is just a plan; whether it’s … Continue reading →

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Matchmaking Disconnections

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t. … Continue reading →

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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way

Posted on September 12, 2011 by RealityCheck

The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading →

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Communication: The ‘How-to’ of Talking

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

In a quest for a more satisfying (or at least, less irritating) life with his parents, Liam has asked cousin Larry for help. Now, Liam’s wondering if the reason Larry gets along with his parents is because

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Communication: What’s the Message?

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

“If only we could communicate.”  Whether verbal or non-verbal, we communicate to send messages to the people around us. Clearly, some communications are more effective than others. Let’s take a look at Liam, who, according to his parents, is rebellious

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External Control vs. Happier Relationships

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city

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Lessons for Happier Relationships

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Marriage is an important relationship, so there’s lots of marital advice available. In the book, Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage, cowritten with his wife Carleen, Dr. Wm. Glasser offers a “self-study” approach to improving marriage using Choice Theory/Reality Therapy. … Continue reading →

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Sam, Revisited

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, … Continue reading →

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A Plan for Now

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

As we carry on with Joey and Rayne, you may remember that Rayne wants a change in the way her grown son, Joey, interacts with her.  After looking at past activities that have been helpful, Rayne decided to try a … Continue reading →

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