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Reality Check: Both Sides Now
No matter how close two people are, they will have differences. What do we do when we differ? Sometimes we blame: “It’s your fault…” We might try bribery: “If you come home, I’ll let you go fishing.” Or we might … Continue reading →
Posted in Relationships
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Tagged examining options, negotiation, perception
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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror continued
Last time, I introduced you to Sam, who has been having conflicts with just about everyone, most recently including the law. As you care about Sam, you want to help. Sam has already told you that he doesn’t want to … Continue reading →
Posted in Helping Others
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Tagged examining options, freedom, making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Rise or Sink?
Much like a community or a family, a workplace has its own atmosphere and culture. Some places are productive, filled with industrious people who are happy at their work. Other workplaces seem angry or sullen, where even simple tasks take … Continue reading →
Posted in Workplace
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Tagged discouragement, dissatisfaction, examining options
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Reality Check: Evaluate your Information
Is depression linked to drinking diet drinks? Do teenage drivers have more daytime accidents than at night? And can you really prevent diabetes by eating more cheese? A new day; a new study. The media breathlessly reports what we now … Continue reading →
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
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Tagged "should", examining options, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Hoped-for results
Many of us like to think that we base our important decisions on facts and logic. Sometimes, however, our “hoped-for” results crowd out our logical assessments. Let’s look at Molly and Bill, whose life together includes a home and small … Continue reading →
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Tagged choosing actions, examining options, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: For Real?
There’s a thought-provoking TV commercial where a beautiful young woman expresses, “I believe the earth is our future; our children’s future.” The love-struck young fella across the table agrees, “We are so the same! For real!” What a coincidence! What … Continue reading →
Posted in Relationships
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Tagged examining options, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Shaking Off External Control
Last column, I described a mother-daughter conflict where mom, Sandy, tried to compel her daughter Chloe to study in a specific way. Sandy is convinced that she knows what’s best for Chloe. Now, let’s look at the situation from Chloe’s … Continue reading →
Posted in Personal Freedom
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Tagged choosing actions, examining options, internal & external control, learning
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Reality Check: Ease off External Control
The Reality Therapy approach emphasizes that when we use external control, unhappy relationships are the likely result. What is external control, exactly? In “Take Charge of Your Life,” Dr. Glasser says, “In a relationship, it is a belief that what … Continue reading →
Posted in Personal Freedom
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Tagged "should", examining options, internal & external control
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Reality Check: A Picture of Perfection
Selma had looked forward to retirement with great anticipation. Healthy and frugal, with both a good pension and physical well-being, she pictured a perfect retirement. Travel, home renovations, dinners and outings with friends—all are experiences she’s been postponing. Now, it’s … Continue reading →
Posted in Personal Freedom
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Tagged examining options, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Who’s the most effective saboteur?
Amanda and Annie are cousins. They have similar backgrounds, and they have faced similar challenges throughout their lives. There’s a significant difference between Amanda and Annie’s lives, though. Whenever a setback arises, Amanda is easily thrown off course while Annie … Continue reading →
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
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Tagged choosing actions, examining options, perception
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