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External Control vs. Happier Relationships
Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city
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Sam, Revisited
Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, making choices, negotiation, total behaviour
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The Choice Theory Attitude
Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy? In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions
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Tagged examining wants, freedom, making choices, win-win
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When the Answer Doesn’t Work for You
Whenever you ask, “What do you want?” there’s the risk that you won’t like what you hear. Young Sam asked his parents if they wanted him to stay home. His parents replied, “Don’t mind us, we’ll manage.” But what Sam … Continue reading
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Asking, Options, and Conflict
Young Sam is conflicted. He could behave responsibly—and be confined to home to help his sick mother. Or he could be independent—and miserable about abandoning his parents. However, after friend Lisa asked him, “Do your parents want you to stay?” … Continue reading
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Conflicts in the Quality World
What does the word “conflict” mean to you? Is it disagreement with other people?
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Our Behavioural Suitcase
When we’re faced with a new situation, how do we choose what to do? A metaphor used in Reality Therapy to help illustrate how we choose is a “suitcase of behaviours”. That is, pretend that all the behaviours that you … Continue reading
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When Nobody Seems to Care
The world can be a cold and lonely place if you feel that nobody cares about you. The need for love and belonging is one of five basic needs identified by Dr. Wm. Glasser, the originator of Reality Therapy. It’s … Continue reading
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If you can’t always get what you want…
If you can’t always get what you want, can you at least get what you need? Does that question ever cross your mind? If you feel that you are not even getting what you need in your life, then the … Continue reading
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What’s in Your Quality World?
“If only, if only… If only people would do as they should, if only the economy was better, if only things were different! Then, I could be happy and satisfied.” Do you ever think this way? Yet others often share … Continue reading
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