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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading
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Work: What’s a leader to do?
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes. From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake.
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Work: What’s a worker to do?
When you’re a worker bee, stuck in an unsatisfying work situation, it’s easy to find someone to blame. Your co-workers, manager, even the “big boss:” if only “they” knew what they were doing, everything would be better. The Reality Therapy … Continue reading
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A New Year, A New Suggestion
The New Year is a time when many people think about doing things differently (more commonly known as making New Year’s resolutions!) The reality therapy emphasis on personal responsibility leads logically to the idea that
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Communication: What’s the Message?
“If only we could communicate.” Whether verbal or non-verbal, we communicate to send messages to the people around us. Clearly, some communications are more effective than others. Let’s take a look at Liam, who, according to his parents, is rebellious
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The Quality Worlds of a Happy Relationship
In a happy, satisfying relationship, the two people involved appear in each other’s “quality worlds.” What’s a quality world?
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External Control vs. Happier Relationships
Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city
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Sam, Revisited
Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, … Continue reading
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The Choice Theory Attitude
Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy? In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions
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When the Answer Doesn’t Work for You
Whenever you ask, “What do you want?” there’s the risk that you won’t like what you hear. Young Sam asked his parents if they wanted him to stay home. His parents replied, “Don’t mind us, we’ll manage.” But what Sam … Continue reading
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