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A New Year, A New Suggestion
The New Year is a time when many people think about doing things differently (more commonly known as making New Year’s resolutions!) The reality therapy emphasis on personal responsibility leads logically to the idea that
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Communication: What’s the Message?
“If only we could communicate.” Whether verbal or non-verbal, we communicate to send messages to the people around us. Clearly, some communications are more effective than others. Let’s take a look at Liam, who, according to his parents, is rebellious
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The Quality Worlds of a Happy Relationship
In a happy, satisfying relationship, the two people involved appear in each other’s “quality worlds.” What’s a quality world?
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External Control vs. Happier Relationships
Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city
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Sam, Revisited
Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, … Continue reading
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The Choice Theory Attitude
Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy? In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions
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When the Answer Doesn’t Work for You
Whenever you ask, “What do you want?” there’s the risk that you won’t like what you hear. Young Sam asked his parents if they wanted him to stay home. His parents replied, “Don’t mind us, we’ll manage.” But what Sam … Continue reading
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Asking, Options, and Conflict
Young Sam is conflicted. He could behave responsibly—and be confined to home to help his sick mother. Or he could be independent—and miserable about abandoning his parents. However, after friend Lisa asked him, “Do your parents want you to stay?” … Continue reading
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Conflicts in the Quality World
What does the word “conflict” mean to you? Is it disagreement with other people?
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Our Behavioural Suitcase
When we’re faced with a new situation, how do we choose what to do? A metaphor used in Reality Therapy to help illustrate how we choose is a “suitcase of behaviours”. That is, pretend that all the behaviours that you … Continue reading
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