Tag Archives: internal & external control

Communication: You can’t make me talk

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Liam is in a power struggle with his parents over his refusal to communicate. From Liam’s perspective, they interrogate him—questioning where he goes, whom he sees, what he does. It’s stifling, and his response up to now has been to … Continue reading →

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Communication: What’s the Message?

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

“If only we could communicate.”  Whether verbal or non-verbal, we communicate to send messages to the people around us. Clearly, some communications are more effective than others. Let’s take a look at Liam, who, according to his parents, is rebellious

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External Control vs. Happier Relationships

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city

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Lessons for Happier Relationships

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Marriage is an important relationship, so there’s lots of marital advice available. In the book, Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage, cowritten with his wife Carleen, Dr. Wm. Glasser offers a “self-study” approach to improving marriage using Choice Theory/Reality Therapy. … Continue reading →

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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault… Conclusion

Posted on August 30, 2011 by RealityCheck

Henry sits tensely in the office of his department head, Aaron, waiting for him to finish his phone call. Henry knows he used bad judgment when he avoided reporting his accident, and he is afraid that

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A Plan for Now

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

As we carry on with Joey and Rayne, you may remember that Rayne wants a change in the way her grown son, Joey, interacts with her.  After looking at past activities that have been helpful, Rayne decided to try a … Continue reading →

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Improving the Present

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

Rayne has had an imperfect past. Who hasn’t? However, Rayne’s past life interferes with her present life, as she spends hours fretting over

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Driving Toward Connection

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

Friends matter!  According to Choice Theory/Reality Therapy, developed by Dr. Wm Glasser, our connections with people are

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Marriage: The “Control” Question

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

When discussing marriage, any mention of control is likely to push a few buttons! That’s evident by how some folks talk about their spouses: “I sure can’t control him!”  “She’s completely out of control!” or this entertaining comment:

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Five Big Marriage Questions

Posted on August 29, 2011 by RealityCheck

Marriage: It can bring out the best behaviours or the worst behaviours in a pair of people. Couples in trouble

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