Compatibility is associated with our levels of basic needs, so when you choose a partner with the hope of living happily ever after, it’s helpful to have some idea of need levels. Let’s consider compatibility and its connection to survival/security.
First, what does this survival/security need look like? Continue reading
Is there someone for everyone? While Choice Theory doesn’t answer that question, it does propose an answer for why some couples are more compatible than others. So whether you are in a relationship, considering a relationship, or questioning why a relationship didn’t work out, you might find this theory eye-opening.
Do you know anyone who says they want to change, but whose actions lead away from the result they say they want? It happens, and it’s much easier to recognize that behaviour in others than in us. Of course, that could be because we never do it. But I digress…
Earlier, I’d mentioned Stephen, who says that he wants to reduce his spending because his security/survival is at risk. So, he enthusiastically lugged home inexpensive canned food from the big box store. Continue reading
How do you react when you are faced with a challenge? All of us have problems; however, different people choose different responses. Maynard’s usual approach, described in the last column, is to withdraw from people and concentrate on his problem. While that approach helped him successfully resolve his money issues, it hasn’t worked so well in his search for a relationship! Continue reading
Wouldn’t it be great if we could always choose the most effective behaviour for every situation? Wouldn’t that make our lives better and more satisfying?
Some people do lead more satisfying lives than others. And while fate or luck may make some contribution, Continue reading
“Honey, would you take out the trash?” “Honey, please take out the trash.” “Honey, Why do I have to keep telling you? The trash! The trash!” Continue reading
Young folks often associate learning with what teachers “make” us do in school. Here’s an eye-opener: the cold, hard reality is that even after graduation, learning continues. Yup! In many workplaces, you need to continuously learn if you want to be successful and make lots of cold hard cash. Continue reading
Last column, I introduced the learning challenges of Suzi and Simon. Suzi used to perceive learning as fun until that day when she missed the introduction to algebraic equations. Now, she fears that she’s lost that and every future math concept forever. Confidence and fun are replaced by fear and confusion. Continue reading
“Fun is the genetic reward for learning,” according to Dr. Wm. Glasser in his book, Choice Theory. Glasser connects play and fun to learning through his theory that the need for fun was built into our genes as a reward for learning. Humans who learn have an advantage over those who don’t. Consider the early days of the human race: the ability to learn brought with it the ability to adapt and survive.
If learning is so much fun, why do you sometimes find long, unhappy faces in places where learning is supposed to happen? Continue reading
Is this the most wonderful time of the year? Or is it…the most dreadful time? I’m referring to the new school year, of course.
While I’m sure that most students are filled with excitement and anticipation, Continue reading
