“It’s overwhelming!” That’s Marci’s reaction to the decision she’s facing now. No longer content to drift in whatever direction life takes her, Marci has decided to choose a career.
Great! However, making effective choices is easier said than done. Continue reading
Do you ever feel that there are too many choices? From the big decisions (where to live? whom to trust?) to the tiny ones (which laundry detergent?) we’re surrounded by options. Choosing among them can be tiring work.
From one perspective, having so much choice offers immense freedom. However, instead of being delighted, we can be overwhelmed by all those options. Continue reading
Making life choices and learning how to get along can be hard work. Let’s try a light-hearted approach for a change. After all, according to reality therapy, everyone has a basic need for fun!
If you’re familiar with households that have both a cat and a dog, you know that pets develop their own ways of interacting. The cat may be dominant; the dog may be dominant. (Yeah, right.)
Consider the dog’s point of view. Continue reading
One self-defense strategy against cyber bullying, as I’d suggested in an earlier column, is to learn Choice Theory. That can help someone who feels attacked realize that other people don’t “make” us do things, and therefore choose more effective behaviours.
Great, but what if you’re not the target? Continue reading
The recent news of cyber bullying is a reminder of how “interesting” teenage life can be. While teasing, tormenting, and harassing behaviours have long existed; the apparent anonymity of the Internet emboldens some Continue reading
Having Reality Therapy as my area of interest, it’s natural that people tell me their troubles. And there are plenty of troubles to hear, ranging from the heart-wrenching to the mind-boggling.
If I’m asked for advice, I usually respond by Continue reading
Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t.
The behaviours that you choose to use are just as important as those of your potential mate. Can you comfortably trust, support, encourage, and respect this person? Continue reading
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you know anyone who’s met a “significant other” through the Internet? It’s surprisingly common (surprising to me, anyway).
How does this phenomena relate to Reality Therapy? Let’s think about the criteria we use when we make our choices. Continue reading
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes.
From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake. Continue reading
When you’re a worker bee, stuck in an unsatisfying work situation, it’s easy to find someone to blame. Your co-workers, manager, even the “big boss:” if only “they” knew what they were doing, everything would be better.
The Reality Therapy approach doesn’t spend energy on figuring out where to place blame. Continue reading
