Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy?
In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions Continue reading
As we carry on with Joey and Rayne, you may remember that Rayne wants a change in the way her grown son, Joey, interacts with her. After looking at past activities that have been helpful, Rayne decided to try a little “heart-to-heart” over some hot chocolate. It worked when Joey was small; why not give it a try now?
What happened? Continue reading
Rayne has had an imperfect past. Who hasn’t? However, Rayne’s past life interferes with her present life, as she spends hours fretting over Continue reading
You’ve probably heard this: “Every day is a gift, that’s why we call it the present.” Cliché? Yes. However, in Reality Therapy, the present is the place to be. Continue reading
Whenever you ask, “What do you want?” there’s the risk that you won’t like what you hear. Young Sam asked his parents if they wanted him to stay home. His parents replied, “Don’t mind us, we’ll manage.” But what Sam perceived was, Continue reading
Young Sam is conflicted. He could behave responsibly—and be confined to home to help his sick mother. Or he could be independent—and miserable about abandoning his parents.
However, after friend Lisa asked him, “Do your parents want you to stay?” Sam realized he’d better check his perceptions. Continue reading
Whether it’s a conflict within yourself or with someone else, often only two far-from-ideal options seem to exist.
Let’s look again at Sam, who was about to leave home when his mom became ill. Sam is a responsible young man Continue reading
What does the word “conflict” mean to you? Is it disagreement with other people? Continue reading
Each of us has a set of tried and true behaviours. Whether we are faced with a stressful situation or just going about our everyday activities, we tend to use behaviours that we’ve used before. We even use favourite self-talk behaviours: Continue reading
Let’s imagine that all the behaviours we use are available in our “behavioural suitcases.” How might we pack that suitcase with behaviours that will work most effectively for us? Continue reading
