Communication: What’s winning look like?

Tension has been rising in Liam’s family. From Liam’s perspective, he’s simply attempting to control his parents’ “interrogation” into his life by refusing to answer questions. But that hasn’t worked very well—if anything, their questioning has become more vigorous!

Inspired by cousin Larry, Liam tried something different. Continue reading

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Communication: You can’t make me talk

Liam is in a power struggle with his parents over his refusal to communicate. From Liam’s perspective, they interrogate him—questioning where he goes, whom he sees, what he does. It’s stifling, and his response up to now has been to shut down.

However, Liam is a bright and practical lad, Continue reading

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Communication: What’s the Message?

“If only we could communicate.”  Whether verbal or non-verbal, we communicate to send messages to the people around us. Clearly, some communications are more effective than others.

Let’s take a look at Liam, who, according to his parents, is rebellious Continue reading

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The Quality Worlds of a Happy Relationship

In a happy, satisfying relationship, the two people involved appear in each other’s “quality worlds.” What’s a quality world? Continue reading

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External Control vs. Happier Relationships

Kristen and Sherri are in the midst of the first dispute of their shared-living arrangement. Kristen is attempting to coerce Sherri into celebrating their first evening in the city Continue reading

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Lessons for Happier Relationships

Marriage is an important relationship, so there’s lots of marital advice available. In the book, Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage, cowritten with his wife Carleen, Dr. Wm. Glasser offers a “self-study” approach to improving marriage using Choice Theory/Reality Therapy.

Marriage, however, is not the only important relationship. Might the suggestions offered for happier marriages apply to other relationships?  Continue reading

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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault… Conclusion

Henry sits tensely in the office of his department head, Aaron, waiting for him to finish his phone call. Henry knows he used bad judgment when he avoided reporting his accident, and he is afraid that Continue reading

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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault…Part 2

Henry has been summoned to the office of his department head, Aaron, and he has a foreboding feeling that it’s about his failure to come clean and report his minor accident. Worse, he’s new on the job and Continue reading

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Work: It Wasn’t My Fault…

Henry was ecstatic when he was finally hired. He’d had his eye on this company for a long time; now he’s eager and rarin’ to go.  Henry’s plan is Continue reading

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Sam, Revisited

Do you remember Sam? His sense of responsibility is keeping him home with his sick mom while his need for freedom is having a negative impact on his physiology. Sam can see his behaviours: depressing, sleep difficulties, impatience, even anger, and he doesn’t like them. He needs a change; his body is telling him so. Continue reading

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