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Control, Need-Satisfaction, and Alcohol
Do you know someone who is trapped in a difficult, unsatisfying situation? It’s painful to watch, isn’t it? It’s even worse if you perceive that a happy, satisfying life could be readily available. Mick and Minnie’s friends see a simple … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged conflict, need satisfaction, unhappiness
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The Solving Circle
Very simple ideas are sometimes the most effective when trying to improve a relationship. One such idea from choice theory that can help with relationship problems is the “solving circle.” The solving circle is an abstract idea, so to make … Continue reading
Posted in Marriage
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, negotiation
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Compatibility and Power
Continuing our discussion of compatibility and needs, let’s look at power. The word “power” can have negative connotations, but everyone has some need for it. In choice theory, power refers to the perfectly natural need for appreciation and recognition: knowing … Continue reading
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Tagged conflict, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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Is it Nagging? Or Informing?
“Honey, would you take out the trash?” “Honey, please take out the trash.” “Honey, Why do I have to keep telling you? The trash! The trash!”
Posted in Relationships
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, making choices
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“Made” You Look!
The recent news of cyber bullying is a reminder of how “interesting” teenage life can be. While teasing, tormenting, and harassing behaviours have long existed; the apparent anonymity of the Internet emboldens some
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged conflict, freedom, internal & external control
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Work: What’s a leader to do?
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes. From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake.
Posted in Workplace
Tagged conflict, examining wants, win-win
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Work: She’s out to get me
When Winnie talks about work, as she did in the last column, you can tell that her perception is that she has a problem team. She feels like she’s trying to lead a bunch of blamers, complainers, plus one aggressive … Continue reading
Work: He’s out to get me
While many aspects of our lives offer the potential for conflict and misunderstanding, conflicts at work can be especially troublesome. Work has an impact on our basic needs, particularly power (the need to accomplish) and survival (the need to be … Continue reading
Work: Three Suggestions for Keeping One’s Dignity
In an earlier column, I introduced a retail service worker who had expressed her frustrations with customers, managers, and the public in an open letter to her community. The worker’s perception, in her own words, was “trying to keep one’s … Continue reading
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Work: Keeping One’s Dignity
People who are aware that I have an interest in applying reality therapy techniques to the workplace sometimes send me work-related anecdotes. A recent email about a stressed-out customer service representative