Tag Archives: conflict

Reality Check: The Value of Taking the High Road

Posted on January 26, 2014 by RealityCheck

In this continuing series on helpful values that seldom make the news, this column’s value is “taking the high road.” Does that get the tune for The Bonnie Banks of Loch Lomond running through your mind? You might express this … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Fume or Fun?

Posted on December 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

Some situations seem to call for obvious reactions. However, even when we think there’s only one logical response, there are often many options available for our choosing. How can we figure out which choice is most effective? Doris’s husband, Bob, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Working with different people

Posted on October 20, 2013 by RealityCheck

Workplaces usually focus more on their business—producing products or delivering services—than worrying about how their willing workers are getting along. However, “getting along” at work isn’t just a feel-good concept; it can have a significant impact on productivity. At work, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Different people; different strengths

Posted on October 14, 2013 by RealityCheck

Different people are different. OK, you knew that already. Something else you may know is that there are people who think, believe, and act in ways that can seem baffling. At some point, you will likely find yourself working, interacting, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Apologies, Demands, and Power

Posted on September 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

An apology is often an effective response when someone has been wronged. Yet, there are also unsatisfying apology scenarios where someone—the victim, the offender, or both—walk away feeling, well…unsatisfied. You know something is still not OK, even if you can’t … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Archie, Meathead, and External Control

Posted on July 16, 2013 by RealityCheck

If you recognize the title of this column from “All in the Family,” then either you remember the 70s or you have been watching TV reruns! Regardless of whether you loved it or hated it, that TV sitcom has become … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Hot Buttons

Posted on March 17, 2013 by RealityCheck

“He pushes my buttons! He knows that I have a temper so he gets me going; then he walks away smirking as if he had nothing to do with it. He does it on purpose to get me into trouble. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Must we disagree?

Posted on January 27, 2013 by RealityCheck

Do you want to get along with others? With all kinds of people in the world, each with our different beliefs and values, it’s impossible to agree with everyone. Sometimes those disagreements are minor, while others cut to the very … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What’s fair in love and chores?

Posted on October 14, 2012 by RealityCheck

A recent study by a Norwegian researcher generated headlines with its conclusion that couples who share housework equally are more likely to divorce than couples where women do most of the household chores. Almost simultaneously, a British study concluded that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Fairest of Them All

Posted on March 16, 2012 by RealityCheck

No, this column isn’t about Snow White; it’s about fairness. Of course, Snow White’s beauty did offer her an unfair advantage over the wicked queen. And, the wicked queen had the unfair advantage of power. Fairness is complicated, isn’t it? … Continue reading →

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