Tag Archives: conflict

Reality Check: Persistent or Stubborn?

Posted on January 17, 2016 by RealityCheck

Last time, I wrote about constancy of purpose and the importance of having a long-term view to guide your decisions. Why is constancy of purpose important? Because few big goals are achieved quickly and easily. If you want to achieve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Impulse to Vent

Posted on November 29, 2015 by RealityCheck

Have you ever felt that frustration has control of you? That you can’t hold back; you have to let it out somehow? If so, how well has that “letting out” worked for you? Venting can feel really good at the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along… But How?

Posted on July 5, 2015 by RealityCheck

Last post, I suggested that the skill of “getting along” is essential if you are to succeed in most any workplace. If you find yourself in disputes or isolated from your co-workers, then it may help to work on your … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along

Posted on June 30, 2015 by RealityCheck

Employability skills are the skills that help you get and keep a job. You might have thought that the technical skills that enable you to do your specific job are all you need in the way of employability skills. For … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Big Sigh

Posted on April 19, 2015 by RealityCheck

Memorable sayings aren’t always elegant and this one, though a little crude, is also unforgettable: “Assume—it makes an ass of u and me.” Making an assumption doesn’t literally turn you or me into a body part. (I know because I’ve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What does respect look like?

Posted on August 24, 2014 by RealityCheck

Communication is interesting. We come up with ideas—essentially pictures in our minds—that we want to communicate. Then we use words to share those ideas. We tend to assume that everybody understands words the same way. Take the word “respect.” My … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The People Business

Posted on June 22, 2014 by RealityCheck

Are you in the “people business”? Almost certainly, the answer is… yes! In their book, Have a Nice Conflict, Scudder, Patterson, and Mitchell assert that everyone is in the people business. There’s nary a line of work where people aren’t … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: So, you’re angry. Who’s in charge?

Posted on June 15, 2014 by RealityCheck

Anger, like many negative emotions, can ruin your whole day, eh? Depending on the severity, anger can leave a bad taste for weeks, months, or even a whole lifetime. It may be tempting to believe that we can’t control our … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Value of Taking the High Road

Posted on January 26, 2014 by RealityCheck

In this continuing series on helpful values that seldom make the news, this column’s value is “taking the high road.” Does that get the tune for The Bonnie Banks of Loch Lomond running through your mind? You might express this … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Fume or Fun?

Posted on December 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

Some situations seem to call for obvious reactions. However, even when we think there’s only one logical response, there are often many options available for our choosing. How can we figure out which choice is most effective? Doris’s husband, Bob, … Continue reading →

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