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Reality Check: What would you choose?
A story told by Dr. Glasser in Choice Theory describes a mother-daughter relationship that had once been good but has now turned sour. Mom works all day. She comes home; her teenage daughter is lazing around watching TV. The kitchen … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged "should", conflict, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Our Own Reflections
After he’d spent half an hour digging in the lawn and dining on bugs and worms, the young raccoon came prancing up to the patio door. Whoa! What was that? He stopped short; backed away. Tilted his head. Backed up … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged conflict, perception, reality
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Reality Check: The Benefit of the Doubt
We never really know what’s going on inside someone else’s head, do we? Even among the people closest to us—our friends and family—we can have misunderstandings. For example, your friend says something you perceive to be offensive; later you realize … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, conflict, improving relationships, perception, work
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Reality Check: Presuming Good Intent
If you’re going to make an assumption about someone, it’s more helpful to assume that they have good intent rather than bad. What do you think of that? Let’s eliminate the situations where the assumption of good intent is obviously … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, conflict, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: There will always be an Irma
Are there people in your life who bug you? Treat you badly? Is this the story of your life? Sweet little Mary was picked on throughout her first year of school. Her nemesis was Irma, a big girl in a … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, internal & external control, making choices, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Sidestep your Traps
Why do I keep doing that? I should know better by now! That’s the way Sophie beats herself up after conversations with her mother. Why, indeed? The relationship with her mom was never great. Sophie is warm and outgoing, whereas … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, criticism, freedom, perception, power
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Reality Check: Bad News Bearers
“I know you don’t want to hear this but I have to tell you anyway.” Do you ever say (or think) that? You believe that you need to inform somebody of something unpleasant, and they’re not going to like it. … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, offering information, responsibility
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Reality Check: Does the News Hurt Your Relationships?
There’s almost always an election in season somewhere. A survey asked whether an election has negatively affected a personal relationship with a friend or family member. It wasn’t about a Canadian election. No matter; it’s still an interesting question that … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing influences, conflict, examining wants, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Fear of Being Hurtful
Conflict is a human reality. Whenever two or more people need to interact, there’s an opportunity for conflict. Actually, I’ll take that back. Conflict doesn’t always require two people; there are times when I don’t even agree with myself! So … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged anxiety, conflict, improving relationships, offering information
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