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Contradictory Behaviours
Do you know anyone who says they want to change, but whose actions lead away from the result they say they want? It happens, and it’s much easier to recognize that behaviour in others than in us. Of course, that … Continue reading
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Tagged need satisfaction, negotiation, win-win
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The Helping Agenda
To finish up this series on agendas in relationships, let’s take a look at a “helping” relationship. This could be a counselling relationship, but I’ll look at a simpler relationship, such as with a coach or a mentor. When one … Continue reading
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Tagged internal & external control, win-win
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Are you guilt-ing?
A benefit of applying choice theory/reality therapy in your life is that you can gain personal freedom—the freedom that comes with understanding what you can and cannot control. In previous columns, we’ve looked at situations where people attempt to coerce … Continue reading
Posted in Guilt, Unfairness & more
Tagged freedom, internal & external control, making choices, win-win
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Ask guilty feelings these three questions
When a guilty feeling pops up in your life, you know that it’s seldom accompanied by delight or satisfaction. It’s more likely that guilt brings with it unhappiness, resentment, perhaps even anger. If you don’t enjoy letting those feelings have … Continue reading
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Tagged improving relationships, win-win
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Guilty? Or Not Guilty?
Internal motivation is a foundation of choice theory/reality therapy. The idea is that our actions—the behaviours we choose—aren’t forced on us, but are the result of choices made in our own brains. Because reality therapy views behaviour as not only … Continue reading
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Tagged improving relationships, internal & external control, making choices, win-win
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Matchmaking Disconnections
Caring, connecting behaviours contribute to the level of satisfaction in a relationship. So, choosing a mate who trusts you, supports you, encourages you, and respects you is likely to result in a more satisfying relationship than choosing one who doesn’t. … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, need satisfaction, win-win
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Matchmaking, the Reality Therapy Way
The Internet as matchmaker! Widespread computer use has caused plenty of changes to society over recent decades, but who could have seen that one coming? Young (and not-so-young) folks use various web applications to help them choose mates. Do you … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, making choices, win-win
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Work: What’s a leader to do?
For this last glimpse of Winnie and Winston’s workplace, let’s take a look through Winnie’s eyes. From Winnie’s perspective, she’s forced to lead an under-performing team of blamers and complainers. Winnie’s pride, and perhaps her job, is at stake.
Posted in Workplace
Tagged conflict, examining wants, win-win
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Work: What’s a worker to do?
When you’re a worker bee, stuck in an unsatisfying work situation, it’s easy to find someone to blame. Your co-workers, manager, even the “big boss:” if only “they” knew what they were doing, everything would be better. The Reality Therapy … Continue reading
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Tagged blame, criticism, examining wants, win-win
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The Choice Theory Attitude
Our attitudes make a difference in our lives. What role does attitude play in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy? In a tiny book entitled Make Today Count, John Maxwell says, “Your attitude is a choice.” He recommends five attitude-related suggestions
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged examining wants, freedom, making choices, win-win
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