The world can be a cold and lonely place if you feel that nobody cares about you. The need for love and belonging is one of five basic needs identified by Dr. Wm. Glasser, the originator of Reality Therapy. It’s a powerful need, indeed.
It’s not necessarily easy to recognize when love and belonging is missing in your life. Take Sarah, for example. Continue reading
We spend a lot of time at work. For some, that’s a place of camaraderie, good will, and cooperation, where co-workers, supervisors, and customers feel like family. Everybody pitches in; it’s relaxed and fun while the work gets done.
Less delightful environments exist too, and if you work in one, you know it! When you’re not in charge (or even if you are) can you do anything to improve it? Continue reading
Do you have problems? Disappointments? Unhappiness? You’re a rare person indeed if you can answer, “Never, or hardly ever.” Some people deal with their problems and setbacks more effectively than others do. What’s the difference? Continue reading
We make choices all the time. Some decisions are important, with long-term consequences, such as, “Shall I tell my supervisor what I really think of her?” Others aren’t as critical, such as Continue reading
If you can’t always get what you want, can you at least get what you need? Does that question ever cross your mind? If you feel that you are not even getting what you need in your life, then the idea of getting what you want may Continue reading
“If only, if only… If only people would do as they should, if only the economy was better, if only things were different! Then, I could be happy and satisfied.” Do you ever think this way?
Yet others often share neither our outrages nor our joys. Where one person is distraught, others may be indifferent or even happy. Continue reading
Bad things happen to good people. When those bad things are happening to someone you care about, it’s natural to want to help. You want to do something, so you offer advice. However, sometimes your well-intentioned, extremely helpful, or even brilliant advice is ignored, rejected, or Continue reading
Good relationships form the basis of a satisfying life according to Dr. Glasser’s Choice Theory. Take a look at your own experience: Are you happier when you are getting along well with the people you care about? Or are you happier when there’s fussing and fighting? Continue reading
If you want something different than what you have, you’ll need to do something differently than what you’ve been doing. It’s not a radical idea, but have you noticed that it’s easier said than done? Continue reading
You have to do this! You gotta do that! Does it feel like people are always making you do things? Do you find yourself doing things you don’t want to do because that’s the way it has to be? Do you see yourself behaving in ways you don’t like to be behaving, because that’s what a person should do? Where is your choice in all of this? Continue reading
