Tag Archives: choosing thoughts

Reality Check: Creating a Positive Feedback Loop

Posted on September 1, 2013 by RealityCheck

Like many of you during this wonderful time of the year, I’ve been getting plenty of opportunities to sit around watching other people work. Of course, I’m talking about being stuck in road construction lineups! One can choose to be … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Goal

Posted on June 16, 2013 by RealityCheck

One term that’s used in goal setting is the BHAG—that stands for the Big Hairy Audacious Goal. (No, I’m not making this up.) Even if your goals are neither hairy nor audacious, the principle of setting goals and maintaining awareness … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Turning Work from Torment to Tolerable

Posted on November 25, 2012 by RealityCheck

When asked about her work, Billie used to say, “Every day is torment, pure and simple.” But not anymore. What changed? As Billie puts it, “I had a little conversation with myself.” So, what was the problem? And how did … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Optimism or Pessimism: Can you choose?

Posted on October 7, 2012 by RealityCheck

If pessimism has a hold on you, the idea that you can choose optimism instead won’t sound very realistic. What is optimism, anyway? Reality therapy says that behaviour has four aspects: thinking, feeling, action, and physiological effects. You can “feel … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Does thinking make it so?

Posted on August 26, 2012 by RealityCheck

“.. for there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare’s famous line elegantly expresses that different people perceive things in different ways. In this case, Hamlet expressed that he perceived Denmark as a prison; others … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What is closure, and how does one get it?

Posted on July 29, 2012 by RealityCheck

Whether you have wronged someone or someone has wronged you, healing sometimes involves closure. Closure implies putting the event behind you; “closing the door,” so to speak. How does one get closure? Rachel was Emily’s best friend, but no longer. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Overcoming a longstanding upset

Posted on June 25, 2012 by RealityCheck

If you seek out self-development resources for inspiration, then you already know that gurus, teachers, and coaches suggest that it’s helpful to have a positive outlook. But what if that positivity eludes you? Tashia “knows” that anyone she meets is … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: At the mercy of events?

Posted on May 27, 2012 by RealityCheck

Whether you are on the search for your first job or your fifteenth, during the job-hunt process, you’ll likely experience both encouraging and disheartening events. Those events can trigger feelings: excitement and optimism after a good interview; distress and discouragement … Continue reading →

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