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Reality Check: Dances with Feelings

When it comes to feelings, do you lead? Follow? Or just try to get out of their way? You may remember, “If it feels good, do it.” That slogan came with a prevailing “wisdom” that it’s not only OK for … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Worry-Weed Patch

Even if you’ve never gardened, you’ve probably noticed that a patch of bare ground doesn’t stay bare for long. Nature doesn’t like empty space. What fills that space? Weeds, of course. Lambs-quarters take up residence in the garden; plantain plants … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Building Emotional Resources

What comes to mind when you think of resources? There are natural resources—forests, fresh water, and minerals. There are financial resources—money in the bank and those toonies in your pocket. Companies refer to human resources—employees with skills and knowledge who … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Positive Thinking

Do you “think positively?” Do you believe that it’s important and helpful to do so? One of the appealing aspects of choice theory for me is its positive message and optimistic view of human possibility. By recognizing what we can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Saddle Up!

The professional organization that’s associated with teaching the world Choice Theory occasionally sends out inspirational quotes. A recent one came from an unexpected source: John Wayne. According to the Duke, “Courage is when you are scared to death, but you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Fight That Never Happens

Does the tension and stress in your life contribute to your physical health? Likely so. Is there anything that you can do about it? That’s the big question, isn’t it?  

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Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”

Self-help programs often promote the benefits of gratitude. Especially during those times when you are feeling particularly ungrateful, thinking and saying “thank you” can be really helpful. Let’s say you wake up feeling grumpy. Sometimes it happens! There may be … Continue reading

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Tame Choice Overload with Direction

A world filled with possibilities—that’s a wonderfully freedom-filled way to look at the future. For Marci, however, determined to make one perfect career choice, all those possibilities seem more confusing than delightful. Added to her confusion is a feeling of … Continue reading

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Acting on “Discouraging”

Discouraging: It’s a bleak word. Usually, the word “discouraging” refers to one person attempting to influence another by raising objections, even trying to take away hope or confidence. In the phrase, “Harry is discouraging” we expect an object. Who is … Continue reading

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On Discouragement

Do you ever get discouraged? When life isn’t going well and it seems like the whole world is conspiring against you, you can get that down-in-the-dumps feeling. Saying, “I’m discouraged,” can practically make your head droop and your shoulders sag; … Continue reading

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